Good evening free_money...
You didn't scare him off, he probably started to notice you paying attention he didn't know what to do. As most shy guys tend to do, he retreated simply because that's where his comfort zone is.
It's my experience while working with a lot of different people, some very shy, that to help them be a little more open, you need to encourage them. When you see him again, don't wait for him to say anything, approach him. Start slowly and just ask him a simple question and go from there. The more comfortable you make him the more comfortable he will feel.
However, I hope your true intentions are to get to know him, like you said. Shy men and women tend to have more fragile ego's. Setting this guy up just because you find it humorous, or just like his attention, but are not really interested in him, please let him be.
If you really do want to get to know him and think you might be interested then the key is to make him more comfortable. By doing that I'll bet you will be surprised at the outcome. A lot of guys seem shy when you first meet them but after spending some time with them and they become comfortable with you, they don't seem shy any longer.
When I first met an old friend of mine I felt he was very shy. I being the extrovert and flirtatious personality I approached him. It wasn't long after that he began to open up and now there are times I wish I could get him to shut up (all in good fun) So first, second and even third perceptions can be deceiving.
Good luck and don't take his retreating as something you've done wrong. In fact it sounds like you have something he is quite interested in, just move slow.
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