[I_appreciate_him]

Well I'm having problems with my foster family...
They assume that just because I ddont hang around them 24/7 that ik don't like them and I explain that there is no problem between me and them its between me and another child in the home... and I know if I go around her I will really hurt her reallt bad... I don't know what to do... can I get some advice

[donf]

How old are you?

May I suggest that you talk to your assigned social worker regarding this issue.

Explain why you choose to dislike this girl and why you prefer to not be in her presence.

Talk to the social worker first, let her determine if this a situation that you need her assistance on. Contary to common thought, the social worker is thee to assist you.

Also, consider, that her world is just as much dislocated by your presence are you are with her's. See if you can get Step Mom, daughter and you together in a Priest's, Pastor's or Rabbi's office and talk this through.

[lacuran8626]

Maybe find a way to spend time one on one with family members you do want to be with. When you are more comfortable, you can share why the other child makes you feel uncomfortable.

They are probably sensing something is wrong and are trying to support you by finding out, and they want to have a close relationship with you.

I'm sorry that you are in foster care and having these problems. Hang in there and keep an open heart, and lean on the people who have your best interests at heart. As for the other child, maybe get some advise on how to work things out with him/her from someone else and see if things can get better so you feel more comfortable with the family. Maybe you need to tell your foster parents what is bothering you so they can help, too.

Every problem has a solution - they aren't always easy to find and aren't always solutions you would have as your first choice, but do what you can - like getting help from the adults so you feel more comfortable - and then let things work out in time.