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angelicaj2g · Dec 21, 2007, 01:23 PM

3 years ago I dated a guy who was is in the army:( and got pregnant and had our daughter on June 4th 2006. I thought he would be here for me but it turns out he was married. His wife had no idea and I didn't either. After not hearing from him for 6 months he called and said that he had been deployed to iraq and that was why he hadn't been able to call. It was a lie. He was trying to hide from his wife. I filed for child support and that's when things changed he wanted nothing to do with my daughter. He only pays 195 a month and now he wants to give up his right because he thinks it will get him out of paying. Does a termenation of parental rights also mean that he is no longer financially responsible for her. I do plan on fighting him. Do I have a chance or am I wasting my time and money on a lawyer.

Synnen · Dec 21, 2007, 01:25 PM

Oh... he just THINKS that.

Parental rights is not the same as parental responsibility.

It's unlikely he'll be able to sign them away, but even if he could, he'd still be paying.

macksmom · Dec 21, 2007, 01:34 PM

Honey you have nothing to worry about.

He cannot relinquish his parental rights just to get out of child support.

The only way that would happen is if you AGREED and you were having him relinquish his rights so you could have a spouse adopt the child.

I would say you are wasting your money on a lawyer... you don't need one. He is not going to be able to relinquish rights to not pay support.
He can relinquish rights as far as involvement with the child is concerned... but he will always have to pay child support.

Synnen · Dec 21, 2007, 01:41 PM

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Hey my name is angelica and this is my 1st time using this site. I don't really know what I'm doing yet. Thank you though. He keeps telling me that he doesn't want anything to do with our daughter grace. He's a pathological liar and has fooled a lot of people. So do you think I need a lawyer to help me or can I do it on my own

Angelica

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Now... honey, he isn't going to be able to. No judge in the country will allow him to sign away his rights just to get out of child support. If he does't want anything to do with her, he's not exercising his rights--so why would he worry about relinquishing them?

If you feel he's a threat, then you need to contact the police, so that at least it's on record, but I sincerely doubt he'll get out of paying child support.

macksmom · Dec 21, 2007, 01:45 PM

thank you so much. I have been so stressed over this. He wants nothing to do with her and I can't understand y. I guess everything happens for a reason but I really appreciate your answer. Angelica

Backing up Synnen here ;)

Again, don't let him get to you... things are not going to play into his favor.

This will not even reach court... they are going to tell him he can't relinquish his rights to get out of support.

Keep you chin up and focus on that little baby :)

Fr_Chuck · Dec 21, 2007, 04:48 PM

First he can't give up any rights, if you are fighting it, he is just wasting his time, and he can never get out of child support if you don't let him.
I would say he is obviously talking trash, and has not even talked to an attorney yet, just tell him to do what he wants, and be sure to file for an increase in child support if you are wasting your time going back to court,

NAQUIN · Dec 22, 2007, 11:58 AM

All you army folks out there. Please correct me if I'm wrong. It is against army policies for a spouse to cheat. Just point that out to him. Your child deserves whatever benefits from both parents. Instead of him thinking about avoiding parental responsibilities, he needs to be thinking about how to keep his job.

Oh by the way, the army can assist you in getting support for your daughter. If he is uncooperative, just tell him you will talk to his superior. That will save you a lot of time and attorney fees. This is first hand knowledge.

Fr_Chuck · Dec 22, 2007, 12:16 PM

Yes, if he is in the army and owes child support, the army will make sure you get it.

jasondbel · Dec 22, 2007, 12:37 PM

You don't know the guys side of the story

macksmom · Dec 22, 2007, 06:53 PM

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jasondbel : you dont know the guys side of the story

It doesn't matter what his side of the story is... the FACT remains that he cannot sign away his parental rights to get out of paying child support.

JudyKayTee · Dec 23, 2007, 07:50 AM

[QUOTE=macksmom]Comments on this post
jasondbel : you dont know the guys side of the story

What "side" could he have that could change the situation?

s_cianci · Dec 23, 2007, 07:53 AM

Terminating his parental rights is not an option and will not relieve him of the responsibility to pay child support.

macksmom · Dec 23, 2007, 07:53 AM

Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

Comments on this post
jasondbel : you dont know the guys side of the story

What "side" could he have that could change the situation?

Exactly.