Elderly aunt's hearing concern and her "cluelessness"
:confused: My aunt has hearing aids, but she rarely wears them... the batteries are an expense as they only last her for about 3 days? Is this common? I realize she wants to save money, but what a waste if you don't wear them and they are of no use to herself or others? I have to constantly yell to make her hear me, on the phone, in public (embarrassing!) and in person... I am tired. Frankly, so is everyone of her contacts, friends, hairdresser etc. they are tired of yelling at her also. If you mention to her to put her hearing aids on, she has some excuse, no new batteries, can't locate them, and at one time she mentioned... I wish everyone had a hearing problem.. then they would know! Boy, do we know!
It is getting to be that I do not care to carry on a conversation with her... It wears me out.
Any advice... please don't tell me I am petty... if you have the same problem with someone you KNOW what I am talking about...
The other issue with her is this... I used to take her shopping for her groceries, she would have me either to use her car, or to pay me $5 for gas. Then she would treat me to lunch at Wendy's, Dairy Queen or McDonald's. I enjoyed our outings.
Now, she wants me to just get her shopping list, and go myself... no gas, no lunch... why this is not petty is, I am unemployed... I go deeper in debt every month... I don't tell her this as she would worry too much. She constantly complains about money, I KNOW all too well about that, I am in the same boat! Actually my boat is "rocking" much more than hers!
I feel really used and resentful... if I had the money it would be no concern... but I feel taken advantaged of... my dad, her brother, whom is deceased... was the same way with money... she is not rich, but she has a son whom shares his proceeds from his business, she has no debt whatsoever. Please any advice would be appreciated... please no criticism... I care for a disabled adult son, whom lives with me and I have my hands full with him and the emontional turmoil... thanks for your constructive advice... perhaps most of all I just need to vent! :o
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