[ladydi7777]

Ok, 7 months ago I found out my soon to be ex husband was cheating on me while traveling for business. I found the evidence on an external hardrive which had many other things on it which proved my suspions that he is addicted to online porn, online dating and online sex sites. There were pics of himself nude which he admits to sending to others and a video of himself jerking off. I also got his cell phone records and he was calling at the least 40 woman and talked to one woman who said she new about me and she knew I was pregnant but she loved my husband. I also found some stuff on this hard drive that had to do with his work and it was bad, I had to turn it in and he got fired. Now he and his family say I got him fired... not true he did the bad things he got himself fired. So now he is unemployeed, I had to move out of the house because he was so emotionally abusive and I am still paying the mortgage. I lost the baby, probably better for the baby in the end but now that he has no money and can't pay the mortgage he has resorted to threantening me that my credit will go bad and the house will go into default if I don't sign papers for hiim to roll over his 401k. My lawyer told his lawyer I would not do that and to stop contacting me. He continued to send me e-mails trying to manipulate me and I know he is lying to his lawyer. I called his father and told him his son is now being decietful to me and his lawyer and the father said "You got him fired, you have backed him up against the wall, he has no choice"

My question is if I have proof of all his abuse, lying and manipulating will the judge be more sensitive to me if we are just going to court for a property settlement? I have heard that judges usually don't care about stuff like this but this man has some real mental problems and I am sure he will lie in court.

[s_cianci]

Gather all the proof you can ; printed e-mails, take notes of any conversations you have with him or his family that result in any threats or disparaging remarks made to you as soon as they happen ; date, time, what was said, etc. Also keep working with your lawyer. The more proof you can muster, the stronger your case will be.

[NowWhat]

I think it would depend if you live in a "no fault" state. I live in Ohio and they really don't seem to care for the reasons of the divorce.
It is basically, it's over and if everyone agrees to what is on this paper - boom, you are divorced. Now that is uncontested. But again, even if it is contested - the reason for the divorce doesn't matter.

[talaniman]

The fact that your putting him in your past is a good sign, but I doubt if a judge will be swayed enough to leave him without his just settlement. If they did, there would be a lot of naked, homeless men running around, fighting for a cardboard box.