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brooksouth · Nov 3, 2007, 06:28 PM

Hey, I like in a student house of 5 guys and this isn't the type of thing to ask them, and I apologise it's a bit long winded.
About a year ago I was sort of seeing a girl, whose really nice but after sleeping with her and being around her best friend I realised that I had chosen the wrong girl. Not really knowing how to deal with this I sort of tried to put some distance between us. After about 3 months I tried to start talking to her best friend more and sent a really stupid message saying that it was her I really liked. Having not got a great response I left it alone but over the last 6 months we've talked a lot and are sometimes quite flirty but not when the original girl is around, last week we pulled in a nightclub and I want to make something of it but she's really worried about her friend and wants to try and forget about it, should I just give up or how can I convince her that her friend was a mistake, a good intentioned mistake, but something which can be worked out?

serena6878 · Nov 3, 2007, 06:35 PM

Could any trust the person like you? Seeing a girl while sleeping with another one, you apparently lack decent life values. People like you should go back to elementary school to learn first how to be a good person beneficial to society.

brooksouth · Nov 3, 2007, 06:44 PM

Originally Posted by serena6878

Could any trust the person like you? Seeing a girl while sleeping with another one, you apparently lack decent life values. People like you should go back to elementary school to learn first how to be a good person beneficial to society.

U obviously read this wrong I slept with a girl broke it of because I liked her best friend and now 9months later really like the best friend and don't really no how to explain that to her. So please re-read and get your facts right!

serena6878 · Nov 3, 2007, 06:55 PM

It is as bad as what I mistook. I am sorry.
Some beginning would mean an end. You were seeing her and had intimacy with her, but all that had happened means nothing to you. Were I that girl, I would be sad. And how can the second girl know that you would not do the same thing to her? You need to be responsible!

Sahi444 · May 12, 2009, 07:17 AM

Originally Posted by serena6878

It is as bad as what I mistook. I am sorry.
Some beginning would mean an end. You were seeing her and had intimacy with her, but all that had happened means nothing to you. Were I that girl, I would be sad. And how can the second girl know that you would not do the same thing to her? You need to be responsible!

First the insecurity that you will ditch on her then the fact that she will possibly lose her best friend who was possibly loyal to her. My answer would be a total no had I been in this girl's place. I don't say that your love or attraction is not true and pure what I say is it is tough for her to believe in that

If your love is true you can surely convince her but u'll be the reason she loses her best friend

Best of luck

shazamataz · May 12, 2009, 07:21 AM

I'm sorry but you don't have much chance with the friend now.

I don't know about her standards but from where I come from my friends boyfriend/sex buddies are off limits!

Romefalls19 · May 12, 2009, 07:25 AM

It doesn't usually work out, not too many people I know could know their boyfriend/girlfriend slept with one of their friends.

Triysle · May 12, 2009, 02:50 PM

It's not out of the question, but your best bet right now is to let the other girl make the choice. Tell her how you feel, but let her know that you understand if she doesn't feel the same way.

Truthfully, you shouldn't put too much faith in this working out. Even if you do try a relationship, her friend is going to make things hard for you (even if she says she supports you, she will always feel a slight bitterness). I think you should try looking somewhere else, outside your current group of friends.

~ Tee