[browneyes20]

My boyfriend and I just recently broke up. It was a very nasty break-up too. I think that one of my ex-best-friends is telling him lies about me because lately he's been extremely shady to me when I have tried calling him or texting him. The reason that I am calling/texting him is because I still have things at his house that I need to get back. He won't answer his phone when I call or if he does answer, he hangs up right away. This ex friend of mine has been spreading a bunch of rumors about me and my relationship with my ex to other people. I think that the reason he's being so cruel to me is because of what she might have said to him. How do I get him to talk to me about this? Or even to answer his phone... b/c I want my stuff back.

[labman]

Maybe think twice before showing up at his door by yourself.

[RickJ]

I, also, would strongly encourage you to not risk trouble by going there by yourself.

I would call the police and ask them to escort you there so that you can get your stuff.

They will insure that things don't get nasty again.

[browneyes20]

I was not going to go to his house by myself. At least not without him knowing. That is why I have been trying to call him, because all I need to do is go there, get my stuff, and leave. At this point I don't even want to talk to him. What do I do about this ex friend of mine telling him huge lies about me. And about her telling other people lies about me, because now these other people who used to be my friends won't talk to me either. But I didn't do anything.

[shenda]

Most of what you left at your ex's place, does not hold significant value, if a fire occurred it would be lost, burnt up in smoke. So, if he does not want to connect with you, in order for you to collect your belongings... fear not. It is just stuff. I know you may want it, but do not be afraid to leave it behind in order to keep your mental sanity.

As far as this lying ex friend, know this... what is said is not true, you can not stop people from exercising free will; however, you do not need to let it bother you. Darkness is always dispelled in Light. Remember that and never sweat the small stuff. Now if it is more than collecting your items and you want to reconnect with the man, be true... let time cool the tension between the two of you

[browneyes20]

Hey Shenda~
Thanks for the advice. It was helpful. A part of me does want to go over to his house to reconnect with him, but I know that that is just wishful thinking. My head is telling me one thing and my heart is telling me another. I've been trying to forget about my stuff there, because you're right... it's just stuff. And honestly, if it did get burned away by a fire... I could care less. Again, thanks for the advice... it was great. :)

[letmeno]

I don't know what exactly it is that you have over his house but if it's not anything of personal value, a family heirloom, your great grandmother's wedding ring or anything such as that, then I am pretty sure that the wal-mart nearest you might have just about any and everything that you need to replace in stock. I am begging you please, please and pretty please stop finding excuses to go and see this guy. He has all but hand painted you a sign that he does not want anything to do for you. Do not go and see him, you will wind up with the short end of the stick. He will resent the fact that you are there and he will more than likely say things to you that you may not be able to take. If he hasn't tried to contact you to patch it up and smooth it over then leave him alone.
Good Luck in life and finding better friends!

[Katiy]

Stop pretending that the "Stuff" is so important. Why do you like being a doormat? Find someone better.

[expertinlove]

Well... Hes deff. Mad at you about something. Talk to this person that is spreading rumors see what the hell is going on. If he your ex doesn't answer, be straight up tell him what your wanting. Tell him to quit being so immature and just talk. Ask him what his problem is. Hes obviously not worth your time, he's not giving you the time of day.