[young lady]

There are two guys at school they both like me. One's a year older, the other is the same age. The guy who is the same age as me is going to ask me out soon it's what my friends all say who overheard him talking but he would treat "Going Out" as just a title and that's not what I want but he's really sweet and if I said, "No" it would break his heart and I see him multiple times every day. The older guy wouldn't ask me out as soon and I'd have to say no when I told my friend who communicates with the first guy I'd say "Yes" but I'm not so sure. With the older guy, I've known him longer and he'd probably hold my hand, kiss my forehead, cheeks, hold me, give me his jacket if I was cold, and maybe even peck my lips. That's exactly what I want but is breaking the first guy's heart worth this tender love?
Help!
young lady

[PrettyLady]

You shouldn't feel guilty for not wanting to go out with the first guy. Your young and you deserve to have fun. What you should do is sit down with the first guy and tell him that he's a great guy, but you can't go out with him. Let him know that you and him are better off as friends. I know that you don't want to hurt his feelings, however, it's not good to be in a relationship with a person you aren't interested in, so it's best to be honest with him.

[fredg]

Hi,
I agree with Prettynpetite with "be yourself" and be honest. There is nothing wrong with having many friends to go out with. Personally, I wouldn't be paying much attention to what other people say about how someone feels about you. Gossip starts that way, and we all know that gossip is not always true, or false. You never know.
It sounds like you feel you can't be really good friends with more than one boy at a time! Going out with someone has nothing to do with someone else.
The boy your age really hasn't asked you out yet! So, you are worrying about something that hasn't even happened.
If he asks you out, and you don't want to go, just simply tell him you would rather not. Being friends with someone doesn't mean you have to go out with them. How are you going to handle it, if 3 or 4 boys like you, talk with you every day or every other day, and want to go out with you?
You are free to pick who you want to go out with. Don't be afraid of hurting someone's feelings about this. Their personal feelings are up to them, not you. You willl not always be able to make everyone happy, just remember that.

[s_cianci]

You have to do what's right for YOU. You cannot worry about nor be responsible for someone else's reactions to your decisions. You must be loyal to yourself and not worry about breaking someone else's heart. Follow your heart and go for whatever is right for you.

[Katiy]

Why limit yourself. You are not a babysitter. Go out with them both, if they can't handle it, give them a tissue.

[talaniman]

As long as your honest and considerate you should go out with whomever you like.Just don't play games with peoples feelings.

[jeffatl]

Why limit yourself. You are not a babysitter. Go out with them both, if they can't handle it, give them a tissue.

DO NOT LISTEN TO ANYTHING SHE SAYS PLEASE!.

[CaptainForest]

Katiy... I love your answer.


Guys will get over a broken heart. Be honest and upfront and do what makes you feel good. He will get over it.