[jennikins8900]

My man thinks ill get pregnant or is grossed out or something even though we haven't done it in 3 months and I've lost my weight. I am attractive and devoted 100% to him.What could be his problem. Is it because he's 50 and I'm 29? Why should that matter. I want him so bad. How to make him want me? Is giving life that gross? He adores the baby- 2 months old- but ignores me. What do I do?

[charlotte234s]

I would suggest having a very honest conversation with him, and explain your feelings to him?

[jennikins8900]

I have talked, cried (postpartum stuff), and it doesn't seem to work. Is it because he's 50 and I'm 29?

[charlotte234s]

I can't know anything about that, he may feel that way, but there's no way to tell from any of the information I have. Maybe you can write him a letter and leave it for him to read, and avoid any confrontation so he knows how you really feel?

[tamed]

I don't think it's the age thing (but I could be wrong). The only thing I can think of is that fatherhood affects different men in different ways and perhaps he's trying to come to terms with this new life he has to cater for. Another thing I've heard is that men who look down during the birth of their child tend to be desensitised from love making for a while. The best thing to do would be to tell your other half how you feel or get some counselling for the both of you.
Good luck.

[Fr_Chuck]

Did he want to have a child? Most 50 year old don't, this can have a serious effect on many relationshios

[jennikins8900]

He wouldn't talk about it for 5 months. I think he thinks I did it on purpose even though I couldn't have been more shocked. Anyway, now I've become invisible and the child is like the golden child. There are many people shocked because he's such a good father. Shouldn't this be a bond for our family. I can walk by naked and he'd keep staring and smiling at the baby. Is that a good thing or a bad thing? I feel like something's so wrong with me.