[skay80221]

My boyfriend is an alcoholic and recently become a rage-aholic. I am making arrangements to leave him. But what makes this complicated is we have an 8 month old son together. My boyfriend has a son from a previous marriage who is 6. He takes him to parties, bars etc. Now for my question... When I leave my boyfriend what to I have to do to prove that he is unfit to see our son without supervision? I do not want child support. And, would it be out of the question to ask the courts for him to take a breathalizer when he picks up my son and drops him off if I agreed to pay for it?

[peggyhill]

You should call a local law office and ask for a free consultation. If the first place you call won't give you one, keep trying, I'm sure someone will. A lawyer who specializes in family law should be able to point you in the right direction. Also, if he is taking his son to bars/alcohol parties and driving drunk with his son with him, you could consider reporting him to Social Services. He is obviously setting a very bad example for him. Good luck!

[N0help4u]

With visitations you can have a designated pick up/drop off site. Many girls that are afraid of the dad or have PFA's use the police station as their exchange place. Write everything he has done and the closest time you can remember and start writing everything he does when he does it so you can tell the Judge the different incidents and so you feel he needs supervised visits.

[s_cianci]

Write everything he has done and the closest time you can remember and start writing everything he does when he does it so you can tell the Judge the different incidents and so you feel he needs supervised visits.

I agree with this. Start keeping a detailed log of all of his behaviors. Be prepared to explain to the judge when and why you started doing this.

[Bluerose]

I agree, keep a journal of all his activities, drinking, fights etc. Since the baby is so young you will have a say in visitations. And may I advise against stopovers, keep the visits short and few and far between while the baby is so young. At least until he proves himself a fit father. And remember this is not about you two this is about your child and what is best for him.

You can, for as long as your other half continues to be unreliable, say when and where the visits are to take place, stay in charge. But also, if I may say this as a word of warning, you must also be above reproach. You must be seen to be taking very good care of your child and live in a clean save environment. Keep all receipts of things you buy for the baby and any receipts of things he buys - this shows which one is the more loving and responsible parent should it become serious and end up in court.

[macksmom]

All the previous posters have given you great advice! :)

Definitely start keeping a journal now, and get a free consultation with an attorney.

And, regardless if you want it or not, you should get child support for the baby.