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    Gotogrrl Posts: 16, Reputation: 2
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    Oct 9, 2007, 05:55 PM
    Wedding Etiquette
    My Best friend of 22 years got married this past July. Her mother and my mother are also best friends. So this was an occasion that was truly going to be special.
    I personally spent well over $4000.00, from the bridal shower to the bridesmaid dress. Which seems to me to be a fair bit of money? However it did not bother me at all at the time because this was for my dear friend. Well it has been 6 months since I had the bridal shower and 3 months since the wedding and I have not received a thank you card at all. It is not just me either who has not received one. Anyone I have talked to has not. I am a little surprised that not even verbal thanks have come my way. Am I being petty? Or is this completely rude?
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    Oct 9, 2007, 05:57 PM
    It's very rude.
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    Oct 9, 2007, 06:13 PM
    RUDE. I would send her a thank you card for the "thank you card". Maybe that would get the point across..
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    Oct 10, 2007, 06:47 AM
    RUDE!
    In fact, for all you've done she should have thanked you in person and taken you to lunch!

    Call her up and ask if she needs help mailing out the thank you cards. ;)
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    Oct 10, 2007, 07:24 AM
    If I had been friends with someone for 22 years who behaved like this, I'd call them up and tell them directly they are being rude. If your friend of 22 years can't be honest with you, who can? :)
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    Oct 28, 2007, 08:49 PM
    I agree - it's rude to not acknowledge a gift with a thank you note. An exception would be for a small hostess gift or some token given to say thank you. All other gifts should be acknowledged in writing.
    My husband and I get a large number of invitations and announcements, and I have to say that in the last 5 years, the people who are sending us graduation announcements and wedding invitations seem to be oblivious to this rule. Recently we've had a family wedding, and despite giving the couple a large check, separate engagement, shower and wedding gifts, they have not even given a verbal thank you or acknowledged receipt of any of these gifts.
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    Oct 29, 2007, 11:19 PM
    UGH, how rude... I'm planning my wedding, that will take place in late July or August. I already purchased my invitations (print yourself ones), and purchased thank you cards at the same time. I think it's an important step!
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    Jan 20, 2009, 04:36 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by ChihuahuaMomma View Post
    UGH, how rude...I'm planning my wedding, that will take place in late July or August. I already purchased my invitations (print yourself ones), and purchased thank you cards at the same time. I think it's an important step!
    Good for you! We need more brides like you and less diva brides. They get on my last nerve.:mad:

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