[jolienoire]

Hey just curious as to what I should do, I dated someone 10 years ago, they went to the military came back into my life, We both have been divorced I have children he doesn't. We are both still young great careers, In fact have many things in common, share a lot of interest enjoy our time together with my children. But recently he made a statement about our cultural background, and about his parents not accepting the fact that I already have children along with my me having three strikes, Being of a different race, being divorced, and having children.

I was furious with this statement however I came to the realization that he is being honest with me. My children are also Bi-racial, and I took it very personal. I have been thinking about this for the past few days. Is it worth it to stay with him despite his parents having a big impact on his decision? Should I move on and remain friends with him? I already discussed this with him and he tells me not to worry he is ready for a serious relationship with me and accepts my children, but his parents are far more important.

I love him dearly but is it worth it??

[ordinaryguy]

I'd say it has a lot to do with how close he is to his parents emotionally, and how close they live to you geographically. If they loom really large in his life, and he sees them a lot and they are privy to the daily routine of his life and he wants it that way, then it's probably too much of an obstacle to overcome. If they live more than an hour's drive away and he talks to them weekly or less often, there may be hope, assuming that he's clear about it himself, and you have confidence in him.