[Biggie]

Do they think divorce can't happen to them?

[firmbeliever]

I guess we like to believe that will not happen to us.

I know that I believe in my marriage, and working together with my husband towards a better future for my small family.

I have seen examples of marriages of 30 years,26 years, 20 years etc and I have faith that it does work(takes hard work and compromise on both sides).

[Wangdoodle]

The failure of other people's marriages should have no influence on the chances of an others chances of success. Each couple will enter to marriage with their own intensions and commitments.

[magprob]

For the same reason they walk into a casino, they thing they will win.

[Clough]

For the same reason they walk into a casino, they think they will win.

The above statement may very well be a big part of the reason why people choose to get married. It has become some sort of game in recent decades. Not in all countries, but just in some. "The thing to do." "Being social." "It seemed like the logical thing to do." "...and, this is my solemn vow..." "What's a vow anyway?" "I'm not sure what the word "vow" means." "But, we love each other..." "All of my friends are getting married. I don't want to be left behind..."

A lack of understanding as to what true, deep lasting love means and is really about, let alone really understanding what a vow is as well as what to expect of the other person in the marriage. Rather than thinking through the enormous amount of commitment and work that lies ahead for a couple to continue to be married as things change in each of their lives, you might get the idea that people think that being married and then divorced, married and divorced, is just the normal thing to do anymore.

"For better or worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and in health." Might as well as take those words out of the ceremony... The senders okay. The receiver just needs a lot of work!

If you choose to be married and want to take it seriously, please wait - I said wait, until you are sure that you have met the person with whom you are sure that you will love and cherish for the rest of your life! This waiting period may be for a number of months or even years. Why be in a rush? If you think that you really love and know everything about the person that you want to marry, then please get some counseling. Yes, I said counseling. You might not know or understand everything that you think you should about the other person and/or about what marriage really is. I know of quite a few churches that won't have wedding ceremonies performed by their ministers, priests, pastors, rabbis, deacons, elders, etc. without the couple wanting to get married planning the ceremony at least six months in advance of the event. This is to help insure that the correct and right thing is indeed happening concerning a couple being married.

[LankyMae]

People marry because of a false idea of love and trust.

[The Lake House]

The major problem is that people think they know about each other, in face, it takes longer than you thought to get to know eacch other.
Unfortunately, peveryone changes, the ones you know yesterday could be a totally different one that he himself doesn' even know who he is anymore.