[chelsealover]

I have discovered my boyfriend has been looking at porn , which is fine . But I have found he has been looking at adultfriendfinder.com . I'm not sure if he is just looking at the pictures or if he is actually linking up with other women ? Do I tell him I found the porn - it was in the tool bar of our laptop and what do I say ? Help . I'm completely distrught .

[smoothy]

That's a pay site... you don't do more than look if you aren't paying. Now that will make a difference, looking at amateur photos which is fine... I preffer real women to the plastic ones you see in some porn.

Now if he pays and is talking with people that's a whole different can of worms.

[chelsealover]

I just can't my head around it , so you have to pay . I guess there is no way of me finding out if he has paid or not . Its driving me crazy . I dicoverd he had been looking at it on my laptop so could just ask him why porn is on my toolbar 0 I just don't know what to do .

[Dennis777]

Hello.

Ask him in a nice way what is going on. Many times a site will link a tool bar to your computer and if your like me you don't know how to remove it. Even if he has talked to the Ladies on the site it doesn't mean he is going to act on it so relax and I'm sure things will be OK.

Dennis777

[chelsealover]

It just feels like he is keeping something from me . He constantly constantly tells me how much he loves me and how lucky he is to have me - I have no probs with him looking at porn but if I find out he has been talking to women , I won't be happy .

[smoothy]

i just can't my head around it , so you have to pay . i guess there is no way of me finding out if he has paid or not . its driving me crazy . i dicoverd he had been looking at it on my laptop so could just ask him why porn is on my toolbar 0 i just dont know what to do .

You can post an ad free... what you can not do is initiate any contacts. And therefore can not chat with them, now if by some chance he did have an ad there someone else might initiate contact then he could do the email tag thing.

Just having been to that site doesn't mean much, they have a LOT of links out there that would get him there.

I'm not saying nothing is happening, Just clarifying how that works.

[Dennis777]

Hello.

You say he can look at porn but not talk to the Ladies on the site... Maybe he is talking to them about how to make you happy... Don't over react, the answer could be simple unless you make a big deal about it and push him into a corner before you know the facts.

Dennis777