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    Sep 18, 2007, 06:42 AM
    Anyone Know why this is hapeening?
    I need advice on a few things. I seem to keep getting lied to by females, I split up with a girl I was sseing casually for 4 months. She said she doesn't want to be with a guy yet I hear she now is. I then meet another girl we met up a few times I hear from her and other people she likes me, which I believed. She then goes on holiday and I'm told she met a guy.Whne she comes back I don't hear from her so I thought id text her. We started talking and I took her as my partner to a wedding, I told her I liked her and would like to see her a little more often and see how things go, she made up excuses to avoid this... I now hear she is seeing this other guy who stays down south (UK)... priouse to this as well I started texting a girl who I met but as soon as I mention meeting up she blanks the question and never hear from her again...

    Why does this happen to me, I keep getting told from my friends (female) I can get any girl I want but why the constant rejection then, I'm sick of people telling me this and all I get in return is the opposite. Am I doing something wrong?? Do females actually find me unattractive?? My confidence is constantly dented by females and Im beginning to believe I will never be with someone who I like and will get the same feeling in return.
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    Sep 21, 2007, 02:49 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Tyne26
    I need advice on a few things. I seem to keep getting lied to by females, I split up with a girl i was sseing casually for 4 months. She said she doesnt want to be with a guy yet I hear she now is. I then meet another girl we met up a few times I hear from her and other people she likes me, which I believed. She then goes on holiday and im told she met a guy.Whne she comes back i dont hear from her so i thought id text her. We started talking and i took her as my partner to a wedding, i told her i liked her and would like to see her a little more often and see how things go, she made up excuses to avoid this....i now hear she is seeing this other guy who stays down south (UK).....priouse to this as well i started texting a girl who i met but as soon as i mention meeting up she blanks the question and never hear from her again.....

    Why does this happen to me, I keep gettin told from my friends (female) I can get any girl i want but why the constant rejection then, im sick of people telling me this and all i get in return is the opposite. Am I doing something wrong???? do females actually find me unattractive???? My confidence is constantly dented by females and Im beginning to belive i will never be with some1 who I like and will get the same feeling in return.
    maybe u are looking in the wrong place for girls. Where do u usually meet these girls that keep rejecting u? Also I don't know if you try to be friends with these girls first or once u meet them and kind of talk to them for a couple days then do u ask them out? Personally it's a turn off when a guy can't just be my friend first, like when guys just want to take u on a date and they barely know u its not as comfortable as if they are hanging out with like a group of friends and u 2 hang out. Cause then its more of a chill invironment. I don't know lol. Don't worry though, u will find someone who will make u happy =D and when u meet that person u will know!! It will hit u like a bug hits your windsheild on the freeway haha =P
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    Sep 21, 2007, 03:11 AM
    Hey man!! A friend told me once: I talk to over 30 females at day, and just 1 or 2 give me their numbers. It's just math lol. Increase the potentials increase the outcomes. Don't be hard on yourself just because 2 gals reject you. You' re great! Just for being you!! The rest is just the natural selection process. Someone would like you and someone don't. Raise your chin man, your worth it and have fun, I wish soon to be on the hunt, you know ;)
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    Sep 21, 2007, 03:43 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by pinkchick_888
    maybe u are looking in the wrong place for girls. where do u usually meet these girls that keep rejecting u? also i dont know if you try to be friends with these girls first or once u meet them and kinda talk to them for a couple days then do u ask them out? personally its a turn off when a guy can't just be my friend first, like when guys just wanna take u on a date and they barely know u its not as comfortable as if they are hanging out with like a group of friends and u 2 hang out. cause then its more of a chill invironment. idk lol. dont worry tho, u will find someone who will make u happy =D and when u meet that person u will know!!! it will hit u like a bug hits ur windsheild on the freeway haha =P

    I usually meet these folk when out at bars and clubs and I know thees are the wrong places but this is where me and the guys socialise. I guess I sometimes rush it with females or try to impress and I hate myself for it but I've learned not to do this again. I really want to meet someone who I really like... I did once but she was 6 years younger than me (20 years old) and we wanted different things... she wanted to go out and experiment I didn't. I hear a lot of females comment on the way I look and thery're opinions are always that I'm nothing special...

    I have 2 friends who females just flok to them when we are out and I don't get spoken to, it kind of hurts... hard to feel good about the way you look when this happens too often
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    Sep 21, 2007, 11:30 PM
    Lol maybe you should start socializing new places, or just add some new places to your list. Ooh I have great place, or at least I think so :) if you have a dog you should go to a dog park, if you have ever heard dogs are chick magnets, its cause they are. Unless the girl is afraid of dogs, then that just means it not the right girl! But if you don't have a dog then borrow someone's or something lol... but seriously bars and clubs aren't the best place to meet people, they are good to have fun at and maybe you might get lucky and find that special someone, but the odds aren't the highest. I know you said that you try to impress girls and you hate yourself for that, but don't! Cause everyone tries to impress people, its natural. Just be yourself though, like I mean don't tell lies to make yourself look better, I'm not saying you do that but I'm just giving advice. Also there is a saying beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so if one girl doesn't find you attractive there are plenty that prob do! I really hope this helps you at least a little bit, but if it doesn't at least I tried ;) if I think of any other good places to pick up girls I will tell u. are there any girls at work you like? Or an of your girl friends that may like u?
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    Oct 9, 2007, 12:27 AM
    Ive had enough of all this... its happened to me again, I've got rejection written across my forehead, there is only so much denial I can take, I take it very personally now, my confidence has gone... I went to a wedding at the weekend... get chatting to my friends cousin... we spend the night together at a club, shared a kiss at the end of the night... going well I thought.

    Then she texts me when I get home just general chat, I asked her what she was doing for her birthday, and got no repy so I assumed she fell asleep. So when I got up in the morning I had a text from her so I text back... we sent a few more texts to each other and I said iwas going to the gym and would text her later and eneded it by saying "enjouy your shift tonight at work".

    I then text her the next day to wish her a happy birthday and if she was celebrating tonight... as usual I get ignored, so I get the vibe she isn't interested. The previous text she said she wanted to take me to a basketball game yet I try to keep the conversation flowing and get blanked... every female I meet does this, they are not interested and I've had enough. I isn't even going to try anymore just to get rejected again
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    Oct 9, 2007, 12:29 AM
    Play harder to get... you know? Work on your game also let the girls get you. If you are attractive it won't be a problem but even if you lack that use your charm and make them fall for you that way. Be patient. & don't rush into things. :]
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    Oct 9, 2007, 01:36 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by brookeleigh
    Play harder to get...you know? work on your game also let the girls get you. if you are attractive it wont be a problem but even if you lack that use your charm and make them fall for you that way. Be patient. & dont rush into things. :]
    I don't have time for games with people, if you like someone you give it a chance in my opinion. All I did was text wishing happy birthday, if it wasn't her birthday I wouldn't have text for 2-3 days, yet it backfires on me again trying to be nice.

    She didn't even reply which I find ignorant.

    Playing harder to get... what does this mean?? Have you got examples??

    U hear of people likeing "bad boys" but I don't want to be mean to someone or make them feel horrible.
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    Oct 9, 2007, 01:40 AM
    Maybe instead of texting try calling. I personally hate texting whoever invented it should go to hell lol it ruins everything. Seriously but I think maybe if she isn't interested move on to another. Or stop looking.. sooner or later a girl will be the one chasing you. Just be nice to girls. Not too nice though because that can be a turn off to some girls.. who knows.
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    Oct 9, 2007, 01:45 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by brookeleigh
    Maybe instead of texting try calling. I personally hate texting whoever invented it should go to hell lol it ruins everything. Seriously but I think maybe if she isnt interested move on to another. Or stop looking..sooner or later a girl will be the one chasing you. Just be nice to girls. Not too nice though because that can be a turn off to some girls..who knows.
    Yeah you are right about the texting lol

    What is too nice but?? How do you know when you are being that way?
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    Oct 9, 2007, 01:47 AM
    You know you are being that way when girls back away..
    Usually when guys ignore girls it drives them crazy and somehow they like that hard to get you know?
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    Oct 9, 2007, 01:59 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by brookeleigh
    You know you are being that way when girls back away..
    usually when guys ignore girls it drives them crazy and somehow they like that hard to get you know?
    Well when ignore a girl, I then look over and some other guy is chatting her up, next you hear they are seeing each other... why?? Because he showed an interest.

    Females ar impossible to work out, they want a guy when he doesn't give attention yet when he does they push him away, yet they moan they don't get attention enough from a guy they like. If you ask me they are never happy and just like to play silly little games.

    Maybe I should just treat them like crap.

    The past two relationships I treated people mean and I hate myself for it. It never worked. Yet they were always chasing me. I don't want someone chasing me because I treat them bad
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    Oct 9, 2007, 02:01 AM
    I know girls are confusng yet I am one. Lol I think its more you have to know for sure if they are interested.. usually if the girl makes the move first then you know for sure to be nice you know? But you have to be really confident.. idk how but it can turn a not so cute guy and make him so much apealing.. just build up yourself esteem and don't feel like you need to give your all.. unless she is ready too as well.
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    Oct 9, 2007, 04:32 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by brookeleigh
    I know girls are confusng yet I am one. lol I think its more you have to know for sure if they are interested..usually if the girl makes the move first then you know for sure to be nice you know? But you have to be really confident..idk how but it can turn a not so cute guy and make him so much apealing..just build up your self esteem and dont feel like you need to give your all..unless she is ready too as well.

    Well I text this girl and she hasn't replied. I don't know if it would make me seem needy if I text again... then I think why should I, its ignorant not to reply and if she was interested she would.

    Im not trying to be stubborn but I'm not making a fool of myself. If I text again and she blanks me its even more insulting
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    Oct 9, 2007, 06:44 AM
    Anyone know how long I should wait till I text again, this is the confusing part??
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    Oct 9, 2007, 08:27 AM
    Sorry all this has to be a game but that is just how this all works. Your number one issue might be coming out and telling a girl exactly what is on your mind. Such as if you think she is very beautiful then keep that to yourself. You don't tell a girl how you feel until further down the road when you two are cuddling together. You show a girl how you feel just by asking her to go and do something. The action of asking them to do something is enough to show them you are interested. Because why would you ask them to do something with them if you didn't like them in some way? You must be mysterious, girls love trying to figure a guy out. Don't reveal too much about yourself right away.

    Don't call or text so much. Especially within the first 3 weeks of meeting a new girl. Looks like you are coming off as desperate. Instead of contacting them every 3 days try once per week. And don't tell them how you feel. Just be normal, be their friend and talk.
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    Oct 9, 2007, 08:29 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Sandstorm99
    Sorry all this has to be a game but that is just how this all works. Your number one issue might be coming out and telling a girl exactly what is on your mind. Such as if you think she is very beautiful then keep that to yourself. You don't tell a girl how you feel until further down the road when you two are cuddling together. You show a girl how you feel just by asking her to go and do something. The action of asking them to do something is enough to show them you are interested. Because why would you ask them to do something with them if you didn't like them in some way? You must be mysterious, girls love trying to figure a guy out. Don't reveal too much about yourself right away.

    Don't call or text so much. Especially within the first 3 weeks of meeting a new girl. Looks like you are coming off as desperate. Instead of contacting them every 3 days try once per week. And don't tell them how you feel. Just be normal, be their friend and talk.
    Thanks, I didn't get a reply form this girl on Monday, I was going to text her on Thursday again, then if she doesn't respond again I can probably be sure she isn't interested
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    Oct 9, 2007, 08:34 AM
    I would steer clear of the text messages. To them it might seem like you are hiding behind text messages and afraid to call them. I could see where some girls might be comfortable but the majority would think it is high schoolish. Texts are good down the road when the two of you are serious and you just want to send a simple "love ya" text. But I can't stand texts either.

    Try calling her in a few days. If she doesn't answer leave a simple message and if she doesn't call back then keep moving forward.
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    Oct 9, 2007, 08:37 AM
    You also ask "how long should I wait before trying again?" I think the longer the better. That is part of the mystery. You wait too long and she starts to wonder where mysterious Tyne26 went. That is a good thing. Call too soon and it will seem like you have no life, she will be annoyed.
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    Oct 10, 2007, 12:23 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Sandstorm99
    You also ask "how long should I wait before trying again?" I think the longer the better. That is part of the mystery. You wait too long and she starts to wonder where mysterious Tyne26 went. That is a good thing. Call too soon and it will seem like you have no life, she will be annoyed.
    How long are we talking... the last text was on Monday, I might leave it till the weekend but don't want to drag it out too long. I would call her but I don't know her well enough, some girls don't answer the call or may not be comfortable with that??

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