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horse3301 · Sep 5, 2007, 11:19 AM

Does a woman in Virginia have to get back an egagement ring back?

horse3301 · Sep 5, 2007, 11:20 AM

In Virginia does the wman have to give back her engagement ring?

lauder21 · Sep 5, 2007, 11:52 AM

Does it matter where you're from? I think it's your own personal decision. I have my engagement and wedding ring from a previous marriage still, and I never really planned on giving them back.. Maybe it was because it was 'our' money that bought them, rather than just his.
Either way, I think both answers are both socially and morally correct, don't fret. :)

alkalineangel · Sep 5, 2007, 11:55 AM

I think typically it goes, if he broke it off, its hers to keep, if she broke it off, its his to keep, and if it was decided together, then its up in the air...

Emland · Sep 5, 2007, 11:57 AM

I don't understand keeping it - it isn't as if you are going to wear it, correct?

lauder21 · Sep 5, 2007, 11:58 AM

But is he?

peaden1711 · Sep 5, 2007, 12:04 PM

Don't worry about it , that just means that every time she looks about it she will remember what she don't have . Its only money!

peaden1711 · Sep 5, 2007, 12:32 PM

But Very True

lauder21 · Sep 5, 2007, 12:34 PM

For who? I'm confused. Although I think I'm reading your statement as saying someone (or me, I'm not sure if you were referring to anyone or me?) would look at them and be 'sad' or regretful that she is not with the person anymore..
So I may just have read into it differently then you meant. Oh the joys of expressing on the internet, lol!

Jelybn22 · Oct 24, 2007, 10:13 PM

In the state of NY a woman has to give back an engagement ring if the couple never got married. If the ring was given to her as a gift (Birthday, x-mas, valentine's day) She gets to keep it

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JudyKayTee · Oct 25, 2007, 08:52 AM

Originally Posted by Jelybn22

In the state of NY a woman has to give back an engagement ring if the couple never got married. If the ring was given to her as a gift (Birthday, x-mas, valentine's day) She gets to keep it

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This is only partially correct - some Courts have based whether the ring "goes back" on who broke the engagement. He calls the wedding off, she gets to keep the ring; she calls it off, it goes back.

Also basic contract law is sometimes used - mutual agreement to marry and the ring is part of that contract. She receives the ring, the contract is broken, the ring goes back. Under this concept the gift of the ring is conditional - it's not really yours until the marriage ceremony; until then he owns it and you are wearing it.

Obviously if the ring is a clear gift in lieu of another gift (birthday, Christmas) the woman gets to keep it but this is often very difficult to prove.

I had a broken engagement; I returned the ring - I didn't want the reminder, I would never have worn it, I considered it his because the engagement was broken.

What is your level of comfort here?