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    Aug 31, 2007, 08:36 AM
    The returning ex
    Well, so I had this ex boyfriend who basically crushed my heart, and got a new girlfriend. However, she left him about 2 months ago, and he was depressed over her for some time, but now he seems fine. Recently, we decided to become friends and I let go of my grudge. But also he calls and texts me now all the time to hang out, and we do, but thing is... all he wants is to get in my pants. We did do it once after we broke up, and I wouldn't mind to do it again, but I don't know if it is right for us to be friends with benefits. I don't like him, and yet sometimes I feel used, even though I agree to do the stuff, and other times I get jealous at him with other girls. I don't know what to do. Anyone has any advice for me?
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    Aug 31, 2007, 08:47 AM
    Girl you got to let him go. I know its hard, but if you don't like him like that anymore then you shouldn't be having sex with him. Don't let him use you. That's not fair at all to you. Just because he was depressed over this other girl doesn't give him the right to use you as his back up plan. Im not saying anyof this to be mean but I went through it, and it only hurts you in the long run. Don't have sex with him anymore and see how much he wants to hang out and be friends... Good luck to you and be good to you.
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    Aug 31, 2007, 08:47 AM
    He was an ex for a reason and you should have kept it that way. He crushed your heart once and now he wants to use you and your letting him. My advice is to leave him completely alone and stop all this nonsense.
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    Aug 31, 2007, 09:01 AM
    I don't think there is anything wrong with becoming friends with your X as long as they know where the line is drown. You have to lay ground rules though. That's if you want to...
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    Aug 31, 2007, 10:48 AM
    U can't say he's using u... u're using him too... to satisfy your ego that he's loving your body... but won't u want anybody who truly loves you as a whole and not just your body?. if you have an answer to this... u sure hv an answer to your post... good luck with this guy... there are many like these lurking on the streets...
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    Aug 31, 2007, 01:54 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by talaniman
    He was an ex for a reason and you should have kept it that way. He crushed your heart once and now he wants to use you and your letting him. My advice is to leave him completely alone and stop all this nonsense.

    Agree with tal, this guy is using you.

    Leave him alone in this way and I bet he doesn't hang around.

    You could do better for yourself than this.
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    Aug 31, 2007, 04:33 PM
    Thank You Everyone... I Didn't Even Think Anyone Would Reply This Week =]
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    Aug 31, 2007, 09:27 PM
    One thing for sure; (he) has his system up and running and probably put it together before you knew him. For now he knows what he wants from life and seems to be on course. What do you want and are you willing to sacrifice yourself for some guy wearing a diaper. Let him take care of himself. If you were my sister you'd hear me yelling.
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