[Blondie00]

I have been friends with a guy for just over 4 months now, we met off the internet. He always texts me every week, and we usually go the movies and dinner. We get on really well together and have a lot of fun.

The thing is, he's a very touchy feely guy and always has been for the time I've known him. He's always touching my arm when he's talking to me and gives me a hug goodbye. The last few weeks he has also kissed me on the cheek with the goodbye hug and that got me thinking, does he want to be more than friends? I know touchy feely is usually shown to be flirting but I don't know if maybe he's just an affectionate guy.

We hung out last night - movies and dinner. The touchy feely was full on, touching my arm, putting his arm around my neck a times and on my back when we were walking. Then in the car outside his house when I dropped him home afterwards, it got a bit weird. The goodbye hug, he drew me in really close to him and held me there for awhile and then gave me a goodbye kiss.

On my way home he texted me saying "im sorry if i was a wierder then normal when you left, was fightin the incredible urge to kiss or bite ur neck...damn full moon! howl!!! lol" (it was a full moon last night when we went out.) I texted him back saying "damn boy! and here I am thinking I had bad breath or something, or is that me having a blonde moment!" and then he texted back "no, be assured you smell very nice, and very edible, thus the near fang work, and hey you can't use the blonde excuse for everything, no fair!)

I'm soooo new to dating, so I'm really confused. I've had a feeling he might like me as more than a friend but I really have no idea unless a guy is really direct with me. Even the text he sent me I'm still confused. Is that him wanting to be sexual or is that his way of saying he wants more or is he just being playfully friendly??" Cause I even think that a kiss goodbye on the cheek is more than friends. We sometimes talk about sex but really in a generalised way (plus is doesn't help he works for a company that sells adult products) so now I'm thinking maybe he just wants sex? But 4 months on, if that was what he was after and hadn't gotten it, wouldn't he have moved on already?

Thanks in advances for all advice.

[Clough]

Instead of guessing or asking others about how he feels, why don't you just ask him? Please don't do it electronically but straight up when you are with him. You can do this. I know you can.

If you are wanting to get into a relationship with someone that is more than "just friends" I would suggest getting used to communicating one-on-one outside of anything electronic. People can be so phony using electronic communications. It can leave a person guessing as to what the other person really meant.

I know that this might not be totally the case with you and him, but to me, people who rely almost exclusively on electronically communicating with each other might be sending a signal of "don't get too close to me." "This is as close as I am going to allow you to get."

[gabra_123]

I agree, Face to Face is always best, although with the way technology is these days many don't see the difference. A few tips on the side though: a guy will not generally notice what a girl smells like unless he has more on his mind than friendship, invading a persons personal space by touching them playing with their watch... is on the cosmo list of how to get a person to notice you and guys quite often find it easier to say things that they are nervous about over the phone(they don't need to look you in the eyes if you reject them.)