[xxmissconfusedxx]

How do I get him to love me like I love him?



Advice please

[Wondergirl]

You can't make anyone love you, no matter what you do. It has to be something he wants to do, his choice.

Does he like you and want to spend time with you? If so, be a good listener and fun and interesting. That will help him decide.

[xxmissconfusedxx]

See that's the problem I never know how to as him if he wants to hang out and I am an awsome listner I do what ever I can for him. And the times we have chilled we flirted constantly and yea :(

[Pook_Myster]

Wondergirl is right... you can't force someone to think or feel something that they otherwise aren't. You should start trying to be friends, the more you get to know him - the more you will either realise that he isn't that great... or you will find that he likes you too!

[xxmissconfusedxx]

It's not that easy when it comes to him I'm shy I don't know what to say to him I freeze but when were around each other it is flirtmania

[GlindaofOz]

What is this situation with this boy? It sounds as if you are asking how to get him to notice you?

[xxmissconfusedxx]

Basically. Okay we've known each other for 4 years but we've seen (not dateing wise) each other on and off and every time I see him we flirt like crazy then on myspace and aim he never talks to me and I want to tell him that I like him but I think it is just going to blow up in my face also I don't know how to tell him

[GlindaofOz]

How old are the both of you (it will help me direct advice)

[xxmissconfusedxx]

I'm 17 and he is 19

[GlindaofOz]

My personal philosophy when it comes to dating is if you don't try you won't know. If you think that he is into you then why not send him an IM and ask him to do something that you know that he would like. The worst he can do is say no and if he does then you move on. He is the one missing out.

Just be confident. I have to say that if you think that he is interested then he is interested. That is one thing I know now that I WISH I knew at your age. If that's what your feeling trust yourself.

[xxmissconfusedxx]

I'm not confident though I'm scared I don't like rejection that's why I hold in all my feelings

[GlindaofOz]

The thing is that guys are not mind readers. He is just as scared of rejection as you are which may be why he has not made a move. You may not have given him enough of a "go ahead" to make him feel comfortable.

Not to give you a speech, but you need to be comfortable with yourself and the way you feel. If you don't give a little then he will never know how you feel. Rejection is scary but sometimes I feel like its better to know then not know.

Let me give you a story. When I was your age I was in love with this guy who I went to school with. I was crazy about him. I had a crush on him for 2 years. Finally my senior year of HS fate shone on me and he was in my homeroom AND sat next to me. He got to know one another and we became friends. I was so convinced that he would never be interested in me that I never got up the nerve to try and make anything happen. Around our senior prom I decided that I was going to get up the nerve and ask him. This was something I didn't do but I thought f I don't do something I'll regret it the rest of my life. Well he turned me down but only because he had another date. Naturally I was crushed.

The summer after we graduated I saw him at a party. A friend of mine told me that my crush had been hoping I would be there because he wanted to talk to me. Well he and I found time that night to talk and he confessed that he had a crush on me and felt bad after he had to turn me down for prom. We ended up dating that summer before college. So you never know where one step may lead you.

[xxmissconfusedxx]

Yea but how do I go about telling him?:confused:

[GlindaofOz]

You don't have to tell him that you like him. Invite him to go do something with you and see what he says. If he says no then you can move on.

[xxmissconfusedxx]

Okay I'll try it

[lydiagr]

Let him chase you.

[xxmissconfusedxx]

How? He don't even know I like him

[lydiagr]

Well if you really love him, you must be at least VERY close friends. I don't see how you could love someone without being really close. So, be mysterious, let him chase you, and make him say to himself "what is she thinking about?"

[xxmissconfusedxx]

Well I've decided to just give up on him because I'm wasting time on him when someone better may be out there

[GlindaofOz]

I'm glad to see you come to his conclusion missconfused.

When someone is interested in you and interested in pursuing you he will in fact pursue you. You are too fabulous to waste time on this joker