[Ash123]

There is a general thought that:

- nice guys don't get the girl.
- nice guys get walked on.
- nice guys get left behind.

It's not that simple.

1. Nice guys can get any girl. As long as they "own their space" -- that is, they know themselves and their life purpose and what drives them.

They have a life and friends and an interest that sustains them. And they will have a WAY better life than their counterparts. Why? Clear head and good karma.
(and a great woman)

A guy that his his program together (and is nice) is a rush for the girl and a revelation.
**They know you will be nice to other girls and others - So they want to be one of them... and they better stay in line.
So, long as are not nice, as in, "take my lunch money" nice... OR "please come home by midnight" nice... But I" have a life nice".
They do not let bad girls dictate their schedule, but they will be glad to help and be flexible so long as they are not used.
Instead, they are nice to include the girl in their life.


2. A NICE NICE GUY has problems:

He just wants to get along and make everyone happy... He has not sorted himself out:

Nice Nice guys should not date tough women. (well, not many should) But Often tough/mean/brassy women see a TOO nice guy as dinner and lead him around by the nose. Why? It's easy. And it works for both of them - in a dysfunctional way - until NICE NICE guy realizes he is doing anything he can to keep her happy... BAD IDEA. He looks foolish - especially when he keeps wondering how to make her happy. He is so easy for her to work with - and let go... And she secretly resents him - and herself... And when they get dumped by a tough women - people say "you are too nice".

If you just got dumped and think you are #2- take the lesson to heart and get back in the saddle with a new attitude without getting too cynical about being "nice"...

[s_cianci]

Good food for thought.

[Jiser]

All true. Its important to have your own life though if you can't be yourself in a relationship after the initial dating, then why be there.