Originally Posted by
J_9
1. You can't MAKE anyone love you.
2. No one knows the answer to this question but him
3. Only if you two have not broken up
4. No. Lust is not in any way shape or form the first step to love
5. That is a question only he can answer.
I agree 100%..
He says he has lust for you when you have love for him... hmm
From what I can deduct, he is keeping you on a string and letting you know openly by telling you he wants "freedom." He may be doing this so it would make him either feel less guilty, or for you to keep faith in him. This is happening whether he wants it to or not.
So my answers are;
5) Lust is a human's attraction to visuals and sexuality.
4) My answer to 5), renders question 4 impossible because the vision of love is beyond the eye.
3) Using my deduction, if you two are still in a relationship than yes it is cheating, and if it is happening than my deduction is correct. As you said yourself he still wants to be with you.
2) So, if he loves you later and not now, that means he's had his share of other women huh. Or he could go for the, "I was confused excuse," either way whether he meant to or not, what's done is done and there's no going back. Forgive and forget for cheating doesn't exist without hiding sorrow.
1) You cannot make someone love you as J_9 says. It is immoral and impossible. You can do what you want. Live with the faith that he will some day truly love you or fight that sorrow in your heart to find what is good for you. Even if he did make a mistake, he couldn't recognize the difference between love and lust...
Most of my deductions come from the important fact that he doesn't love you but has lust for you. And he wants to still be in a relationship with you, but having multiple relationships with other women as well.
Keep in mind if he wants to be friends, than it will be hard to move on because your heart will feel as if he betrayed you since you love him. Especially since he's going to be dating other women and gets serious with them. I'm not saying you are not allowed to see other guys and other girls, but considering the circumstances and situations, it is my guess that is how you may feel.
This is how I think.