[Death_Maniac]

And to simple asian: I think I've already lost totch completely with who I rilly was or am :-[

[Simple Asian]

Hey pal you never lose touch of yourself not even if you try... you are you and you can't deny that... justl ook at it in a bright way...

Anything can be solve if you willing to solve it

[Chery]

Honey, this is what young life is all about - you'll do just fine because here's a secret... girls are just as scared and paranoid. Treat each one you meet in your life with the same respect you'd expect and then hope for the best.

Good luck, and keep us posted.

Happy Valentine's Day!

[wallabee4]

If you go up to a girl and ask if she would like to go out and she says "no", Just reply with "me neither" and walk away. That puts them back in their place .

OK OK I take back all my advice. THIS is the best advice I've EVER read!! But, say it with a SMILE...

BTW a sense of humor will ALWAYS take you far in life. My kids will sometimes say to me, "if you wear that, MOM, people will laugh at you!" And I always reply, "Good, then I'll make someone smile today." Because I don't care if they laugh at me, I can just as easily laugh at myself.

[FallenFromGrace]

A sense of humor is one of the best qualities that you can have. I think the key to becoming comfortable around anyone is not just the confidence in yourself, but the ability to not take yourself so seriously. Women may reject you, and a few no doubt will, forget them and move on. Anyone who tells you they don't get nervous in situations where their pride is on the line, is lying. I'm an outgoing person by nature but there have been millions of times where I can feel my heart beating in my throat and I have been praying for the ability to not make a fool of myself.

Eventually I figured out that more times than not I am going to make a fool of myself, it's kind of my life's work. That still doesn't stop my heart from beating in my throat when I am around a male that I like.. it also doesn't stop me from hoping this will be the one time I don't put my foot in my mouth. :o

Try giving yourself a personal pep talk (doing this in your head will increase your chances of not scaring those around you.) Tell yourself to relax, tell yourself to smile, tell yourself to stand up straight and feel confident in the thought that if you do all that you are the only one who knows that more oxygen at that exact moment would be worth a million dollars.

[tylkrn]

How do I become comfortable around girls I like enough to be able to ask them out? I feel paranoid around them and don't know what to do. I need serious help!!!

All I can really say is just take a deep breath in and out and step up to the plate. Just be yourself and show her the real you. Don't be worried of rejection because if she does say no just think to yourself "she is the real one missing out on me, something good"...

Does this help your problem? Respond back and if it doesn't I have more advice... good luck