[jlm3cjm]

Last week, my husband started staying at a friends house because he was dealing with a problem that he had to figure out. Finally last night he talked to me and told me that for about a year now he's been feeling like when he's with me that he's cheating on someone else. He doesn't understand why and there isn't anybody that he's thinking about. He wants to date me again to see if maybe he can feel the way he used to about me again. I want to know what I should do to help him. We have 2 children and my husband and kids are my life. I don't want to lose him but I can't figure out why he feels the way he does. We are going on a date soon but I don't want to mess things up. I want him to fall in love with me again. Please help me!

[bushg]

That would pi$$ me off. How childish,of course things are not the same as when you dated. You have a different set of responsibilities. How dare he leave you and your children. What is he teaching your children? I would tell him to get his a$$ back home or I was filing for a divorce. Are you sure there is no one else? And this is just his way of slowly breaking it to you. You need to assert yourself and sit him down and tell him what you want and expect. After all it is your marriage too.

[jlm3cjm]

I'm quite sure there is no one else. I don't agree on the making him come back home or divorce because he really is having a hard time because he doesn't know why he feels this way. We've been together a long time and I know he's not lying to me about that stuff. I just want advice on how to help him figure out why this is happening and if he thinks that dating each other again is worth trying so do I. He still talks to me and does things with the kids. I'm not ready to write him off yet.

[Fr_Chuck]

You need marriage counseling, not dating, perhaps they will recommend dating, this is often actually done.

But unless he has a ex wife he still cares about or has a new lover in his life, this shows he is not stable perhaps and needs more help than we can provide on a internet question and answer site.

[Parajr]

I agree with Chuck this guy is either cheating big time or has som serious mental problems. You are a good woman, because I believe my wife would say, " take your crazy a$$ away from here.