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What's wrong with me
I am 24.. and have been cutting myself since I was 13. It comes and goes.. but keeps coming. I've recently tried talking to a counselor, but it did not work for me. I'm too quiet and I could tell he was getting frustrated with me. I know that I am a complex person, my husband has told me. I think that I might have depression, but I am very ashamed to tell my husband all this. Does anyone know if depression or this cutting thing will ever stop on it's own? I'm sick of myself and life!
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 Originally Posted by RBour
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Originally Posted by hexnoe
First find out what is making you sad. You're cutting yourself to bury emotional pain. Second, deal with that problem and accept the regrets. Lastly Move on. Stop dwelling in the path. Live your own life. Fight your sorrow, and be a stronger you. You came here for advice, so you know you want to stop. Tell yourself you're strong enough to this. You've lived longer than I, and I know you can do this. Don't be ashamed to tell your husband. He is your lover and he will always be there for you. There is no shame in turning to your lover for help. Your husband will gladly help you and be there for you. |
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Hello: You definitely sound like you might have a depressive disorder ("I'm sick of myself and life", etc... ) and, no, it likely won't go away on its own. Having a depressive disorder is absolutely no different than having a physical illness, for instance, diabetes. Neither one is anything to be ashamed about! One is a mental disorder, and the other a physical disorder, and both are equally real and both need treatment! It's so difficult to deal with intense feelings all by yourself. Congratulations for going to a counselor! (even though the counselor and you might not have been a good fit). At least you tried and that's a HUGE first step!! It is not at all unusual for folks to not feel comfortable with a certain therapist. Since we are all unique individuals, what might work for a friend, won't work for you. Thankfully, there are many good therapists out there who you would likely work very well with. If you feel truly comfortable and safe with your therapist, you will begin sharing, I have no doubt of that. I'd like to see you get in with another therapist who is a better fit for you. You might call your local mental health agency or your crisis clinic (or ask your doctor for a referral) and see if you can set up an appointment with a specialist in depressive disorders. Don't give up! You are obviously a strong person, or you would not be seeking help and that's a GREAT sign!
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Not if it becomes an addiction which I think it is if you have been doing it sense you were 13. If you are sick of yourself, you might be insecure and might not be getting much attention. Try carrying a rubber band around on your wrist and snapping yourself instead. That doesn't cause scaring of coarse. If you don't cut yourself around other people, maybe you should put yourself in situations were your around people a lot and it's hard to access razors and such which might become hard when your taking a shower. Take a shower with your hubby. If you feel you want more attention, try to get to know a new person everyday. When you are thinking negative thoughts, think of good memories and the bright side of things even if you don't want to. There is a part of you that wants to stay happy. Everyone has something bad in there past and just remember that if a bad memorie pops up. Compliment yourself. Compliment someone else like five times aday. Get a hobby! Anything that could get you happy. ^-^ Working out is good too but don't do it too much, that's bad. Haha. If you get anrgy easily get a punching bag. But I think your problem is more sadness. Play with your dog. Make a list of things you can do that make you happy and do then or look forward to doing them soon. I'm pretty much throwing out randome things because I don't know much about you.
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Originally Posted by Skrypt
These links might help you. There is more little pages about it just go to the next one. Compulsive Body Damage: Fast Facts at gURL.com Fast Facts Depression- gURL.com |
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It will not stop on it's own - you need to see someone, you need to get a recommendation for someone who is really patient, no psychologist has the right to get frustrated with you because it's their job to help you. Loads of people have depression so don't feel ashamed. You need to tell your husband at least about the depression. I would suggest going on medication while you work things out with the psychologist too.
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I agree with the advice about seeing a therapist. Obviously, your experience with the counselor you saw recently was less than positive, but all that means is that you need to shop around for someone willing to work with you and help you. There are good therapists available and then there are therapists who should be in another line of work. Don't feel it's your fault the counselor became frustrated with you -- you can find one able to give the help and understanding you need.
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