[wynelle]

Georgia has a big case about this right now. An eighteen year old man and a fifteen year old girl had consensual oral sex. He mother objected after the fact and the young man is doing ten years in prison. Oh- and he was an honor student and in line for several college scholarships. And she was "very mature." TEN YEARS IN PRISON!

As a former 14 year old girl, the mother of a former 14 year old girl and the mother of a former 19 year old boy--- got to tell you- I would question the common sense of your match-up.

No fourteen or fifteen year old is going to admit they "aren't mature," and a lot are thrilled to have the attention of a nineteen year old, BUT NEITHER OF YOU HAS THE COMMON SENSE OR MATURITY OF A SAND GNAT. And that goes for Lamboleum, especially. You are both just looking for a statutory rape charge---or at worse an interfering with parental custody/authority charge.

Back away slowly and stay away until the young ladies are at least 18.

[GlindaofOz]

Georgia has a big case about this right now. An eighteen year old man and a fifteen year old girl had consensual oral sex. He mother objected after the fact and the young man is doing ten years in prison. Oh- and he was an honor student and in line for several college scholarships. And she was "very mature." TEN YEARS IN PRISON!!
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Not to mention that its not an "easy" 10 years in prison. There is honor among thieves my dears and if you are in prison for molesting a kid (which you would be since she's 14) or beating up on a woman you face some VERY painful and serious problems in prison. I will not elaborate but I'm sure you can figure it out for yourselves.

[JapanMan]

Lamboleum I'm with you all the way. I'm with a 14 year old right now and I'm 18 and we have a great relationship. Its fun... to be honest her mom doesn't know about it but we don't engage in sexual intercourse, she is fun to be around and hang out with. We aren't doing anything illegal and we both really like each other. I completely support your decision lamboleum.

[kemikal12]

Yes it is illegal. That is saggitory rape if you have sex on your part. I don't suggest it. If your 19 why wouldn't you want someone the same age or older? I don't think you should be involved in something like that

[jelsusmc]

This is not the user of this profile its his friend that's laughing histarically right now I'm 22 and my BABY sis is 14 and if I caught a 19yr old or hell even an 18yr old with her I would rearrange they're face like a picasso art piece if you catch my drift

[Clough]

I am posting just so others are aware who are expending energy in replying to the original post.

toddlovell19 originally posted his question on Jul 7, 2007, 04:10 PM and has not so much as logged back onto this site since "Last Activity: Jul 7, 2007 04:10 PM."

[lilsara1122]

hi,

me and my friend are deeply in love with each other! and what i want to know is, is it ok for me to date her without getting in trouble. if there aint no sexual inter actions with each other. im 19 and shes 14. i would appreciate the help !

I have that same question.x-cept the other way
I'm 14 and this guy I like a lot is 19 and were not dating because were scared he could go to jail.:(

[sGt HarDKorE]

Hes told for you sara, find someone your own age.

[talaniman]

Okay tell me how, and where a grown man can socialise with a 14 year old, without her lying about her whereabouts to her parents, and how healthy is it for a child to have to sneak around to be with a grown man??

[ScottGem]

I am posting just so others are aware who are expending energy in replying to the original post.

toddlovell19 originally posted his question on Jul 7, 2007, 04:10 PM and has not so much as logged back onto this site since "Last Activity: Jul 7, 2007 04:10 PM."

That is often the way with threads. People ask questions and don't even know how to find their way back. But its still worth commenting on a thread like this to warn off others who might want to take such a step.

[ScottGem]

I just really don't think it's okay. I was fifteen dating an older man, and my parents found out, they freaked out and threw his butt in prison. I am eighteen now, and he is still in there. I feel sorry for him because that happened to him, but then again it was his own fault. I just think if you really like her, let her go, and return to her when she is eighteen. You really dont want to be known as a pedophile do you.

Thanks for sharing your situation, but I have to say that it was entirely his own fault. You participated and encouraged him. So you have to share some of the blame.

[babz888]

If you love her/him go for it... am 15 and I love a 29 yr old... he loves me... if it turns out not to be love after a another year fair enough that was my mistake(100% sure it won't though)... its got nothing to do with anyone else... GO FOR IT I say... you love and learn from your mistakes if thts what it turns out to be... remember you only live once... I've been told I'm very mature for my age.. by experts... counselors... so don't say any 14/15 year old isn't mature... times have changed a lot from when all you's older folks were young... these days 14/15 yr old girls arnt playing with barbies... remember that. XOx

[ScottGem]

tbh if you love her/him go for it....am 15 and i love a 29 yr old...he loves me.....if it turns out not to be love after a another year fair enough that was my mistake(100% sure it wont though)....its got nothing to do with anyone else...GO FOR IT i say...you love and learn from your mistakes if thts wht it turns out to be...remember you only live once... i've been told im very mature for my age..by experts...counselors.... so dnt say any 14/15 year old aint mature...times have changed alot from when all you's older folks were young.....these days 14/15 yr old gurls arnt playing with barbies...remember that. xOx

Times haven't changed that much. Girls 14/15 are still not mature enough for such a relationship. You MAY (and I stress the MAY) be the exception, but it is irresponsible and immature of you (typical of a 15 year old) to encourage such a relationship in others. The odds are so much against such a relationship working. You really need to grow up, obviously you haven't yet.

[babz888]

Some of them are... she may be one of the girls that are mature enough for that sort of relationship... clearly times have changed you just haven't clicked on yet... look at other sites and this one how many people are asking for advice on here about dating 15 yr olds? How many say those 15 year olds are mature... nearly all of them excatly... and no need to get cocky.. I have grown up and have had to quite fast.

[ScottGem]

SOME of them may be. But most are not. And no I'm not out of step and the fact that people come to sites like this asking about it doesn't make it right or justified. Of course a 15 year old wanting to date an older person is going to say they are mature or the older person is going to say that. Would you expect them to say they wanted to date a 15 yr old that was immature??

Obviously you haven't grown up. You just think you have. But you are making bad decisions with your life and worse you are encouraging others to make bad decisions.

[babz888]

I no I'm not making bad decisions... you just think I am... you arnt in my shoes.. you wudnt no... if everything does turn out bad ill let you no... but honestly I do think that the man that left this comment asking for advice should go for it... if it doesn't work out.. hardluck.. love and learn.. move on... if you don't try it you'll never no what might have happened... *quote*You MAY (and I stress the MAY) be the exception*quote*.


N how do you no I haven't grown up.. you don't even no me to tell me I'm immature...

[ScottGem]

Excuse me? Hardluck? You don't think it's a problem if an older man (19) exploits a young girl (14), gets her pregnant them leaves her with a kid? That's just "hard luck" to you? And you wonder why I say you are immature and need to grow up??

No I don't know you, but one can tell a good deal from what one posts. And everything you have posted screams immaturity. You are a 15 yr old girl who used a fake ID to go clubbing where you let yourself get involved with and have sex with a 29 year old man. Now you think you are in love with him. And you are willing to advise other people to get into the same trouble. And if they get hurt or wind up with their lives ruined by an early pregnancy, that's just hard luck.

Sorry babz but this shouts immature to me. I really feel sorry for you, but you are heading for a fall and its going to hurt you a lot more than you know. I'm not, however, going to let you bring others down with you by letting you give out bad advice without challenge.

[babz888]

*quote* without challenge *quote* without challenge listen to you calling me immature... wht age are you like 50? And your challenging a 15 who is only telling a person advice form what she knows and has done in life?

*quote* if there isn't no sexual inter actions with each other *quote* she's hardly going to be left with a kid if there isn't no sexual intercoarse so wise up... a baby isn't just going to form from nowere.

when I z hardluck I meant as in a break up.. he/she may get hurt but thts life.. better learning from your mistakes than being told its rong... im just saying I think your wrong and then you get all cocky by telling me I'm immature and will get hurt... I no I won't get hurt because unlike some people i.e U.. I no I'm in love and I no we will work and as does he.

and I think you'll find that I didn't have sex with him until my mother new I was dating him and he new what age I was so don't go saying my life is trouble because if anything its not... its fun... im happy and so is he and if the person hu is dating the 14 yr old girl and her are going to experience the same happiness I am I think it may b just worth my while telling them what advice I want without being contradicted by u.

[talaniman]

Any parent that lets her 14 year old DATE a grown man is an irresponsible parent with no regard to their child's future and at 15 you may be mature, but not mature enough to be responsible for yourself, and you know nothing of life if someone takes care of you, feeds you and maintains a roof over your head. Be very grateful I isn't yo Daddy because your boyfriend would be in jail and you in the doghouse.

[babz888]

Good for you... I don't have a dad because he died but yea mayb e wuda put him in jail... doubt it though... he always wanted me to be happy.. and as for anyone who would even say about puttn der child in a doghouse is an irresponsible parent.