[LearningAsIGo]

Thank you. I feel the same. though, if guilt was the issue, why was she spending so much time with me all this time?
Why is she then still communicating in buts and pieces!
Why would she say yes for lunch and show up!

I think it took her too long to realize it went to far. She enjoys flirting and spending time with you, but you may want to tell her it'll either be a casual friendship or nothing.

**EDIT** Sorry, I just read your last post. Good for you :)

[little angel]

First off, the caps are not needed and it makes everyone think you are shouting. In the second place, whether she feels guilty or not, you are helping her cheat, and the solution is simple. Stop contacting each other.

I can't stop contacting her as we work together. I am not helping her cheat but my feelings towards her are genuine and my marriage is not exactly the best thing that has happened to me though the girl is very nice and sweet but it is just the chemistry which is not right.

[little angel]

I am really confused .As I mentioned we went to a resort and spend the whole day together.She would come closer to me but I tried to keep a distance. If she is guilty why does she do this?
I can't concentrate on my work and since we work together it really becomes difficult.
And from the month of September we will be working on a project which will require a lot of travelling. We both will be away from our spouses .
Is she using me because I helped her get this job and now since she has got the job is everything over?
Please help?

[talaniman]

What does it matter since your going along with the program? Her motives and agenda are irrelevant, but yours are not. That's where your focus should be, on your own problems, in your life and how to go about solving them. Not why how she feels cheating with your married a$$.
You should start your own thread about your problem.