[Digger_13]

I am 23 years old and I have a 2 1/2 year old son from a previous marriage. I got divorced over 2 years ago and I have full custody of my son. I met a girl about a year ago and Ive know her since high school. We started dating and I decided to ask her to marry me. She said yes and we both decided to wait until next year when she gets out of college to get married.

Well, she wanted to move the wedding date up to August. I didn't really agree because she doesn't work and my income would barely support her, my son and myself. I agreed to it finally because I really want to make her happy. She wanted me to move 2 hours away from my home and work. I put my house up for sale, and decided to stay working at the job I am at now and just drive back and forth to work everyday until I could find a job there that would pay similar wages. I feel like I am the one doing all the compromising in trying to make this marriage work. I am having to pay for most of the wedding, and all the household bills along with her personal bills, because as I have stated before, she doesn't work and relies on student loans to get by.

We got into a fight a couple weeks ago that still hasn't ended. She wants a cat in the house and I totally disagree with the idea. I don't like animals and she knows that and I believe my son is too young to handle a cat in the house. Im scared he will get bit or scratched. I am really good to my Girl friend. I wait on her hand and foot, We always go where she wants to on dates and I just really want to make her happy. She grew up with a rich family(her dad is a doctor) and they have spoiled her. My family isn't poor but not wealthy by any means. I only make around 35k a year. She laughs at how little I make sometimes but she doesn't realize its more than she's making... Nothing, and has supported my son and I quite well. To make a long story short, I told her I was not going to live with a cat in the house. SO she called off the wedding until we can "work through our problems". She says the only reason I won't let her have it is because I want to control her. That's the only thing I have said No to her about. She still goes out with her friends and parties while I'm at home along with my son.

Does anyone know why she is acting this way or have any advise on what I need to do? I think she is used to me giving in to her and she thins by saying she won't marry me she think I will give in but I'm not going to give in.

[Dennis777]

Hello.

Sorry to say this but she sounds like a spoiled brat that wants it all her way. The problem is if she is like this now what is it going to be like after your married. I know you Love her but you better step back and take a long look at what's going on. If not for you, for your child. You sure don't want kids growing up with a Mom that pouts all the time.

Good Luck
Dennis777

[bushg]

Dennis is right about the g.f. and you are right to not want a cat/kitten . One even if you get one for free there is food, litter, supplies, spay/neuter cost, vet appointments and shots to consider. Your sone is too young to be around a cat. At 2 years of age your child does not know haow to treat a cat and you are right to be afraid that it may bite and scratch him. Stand firm on this issue. Also I want to give you props for being a man and a father we need mor males in this world like you. Esp. one that is so young. Good Luck