There are no right or wrong answers here... you can't write a manual on relationships, we can only speak from our own experiences, and I would have to say...
1. Why? To what avail? How would discussing your past relationship help your next? I find that it only creates feelings of jealousy... not worth it I don't think. If you have issues from your past relationship that you need to discuss, you should do it amongst friends, and you shouldn't be going into a new relationship with baggage from an old one - so thus, no need to discuss it!
2. It isn't true that guys and girls can't be just friends - they can... and it's important, because it provides balance... and balance is good =) If this makes you jealous or untrusting towards your partner - then perhaps YOU have issues to sort out in yourself - inadequacy, low self-esteem etc... and that's your lesson to deal with, not your partners.
3. There is nothing to never say... you should always say what you feel, think, want... but you should ALWAYS be considerate of how the things that you do say are received... never say things with intent to make your partner hurt in any way and you will never find yourself in trouble!
4. The best boyfriend? He doesn't come in a gift box - you can't create him based on whatever qualities we here in this forum provide you with. To me, my boyfriend is the best because whenever I see him he makes me smile and want to reach out and hug him. He's the best because he knows what I'm thinking and feeling without me needing to tell him, he's the best because he wants to make my life the best it can be, and he's the best because he generates the same want in me. I can't tell you how he makes that happen - and that's what makes it the best relationship! I don't know exactly why...
5. That my friend... is a silly question. Too much together time isn't healthy, and not enough is the same. Balance is the key, and that is different for everyone.
Stop trying to be so systematic... relationships aren't about routine and rules - be spontaneous, follow your heart, have fun and whatever will be will be!
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