[JonLR92]

OK so I'm 15 and I'm the grandson of the pastor at my church, also the drummer,(www.youtube.com/jonadiaper)-im good. Anyway so there's this girl who is 12 almost 13, and for some reason I can't ask her out, its so different asking out a girl from church, plus I hardly talk to her, but I am obsessed with her, I think about her non-stop. I'm just not sure if she's intrested even though we share stares. Can anyone give me advice/tips/knowledge on how to approach her/ask her out/just talk to her? I'm getting desperate for real. Thanks

[huno]

Something you're going to learn real quick in life is that girls give you a window of opportunity to strike, and if you miss it, you're pretty much out forever, unless you win the lottery and then of course she comes racing back.

It works like this: she starts to like you and wonders what you're like. She gives you roughly one week to make a move. Now, if in that week you stare back and you exchange glances, then she extends the window to two weeks.

At this point, you MUST make a move in two weeks; otherwise, she says, "This guy's not interested, he's gay, or he's too chicken-sh!t to do anything--I don't care anymore, I want a real man!" And that's it: third strike, do not pass go, do not collect $200--you are cast into the fiery hells of rejection.

So get over your shyness (I don't care how you do it, you'll have to "drum up" some courage... hehehe... hahaha... hahaha! What? You're not laughing? Well I thought it was funny... ). Like I said, you have a limited amount of time to work with and time's ticking. Get going!

[Dennis777]

Hello.

There is nothing wrong with being shy. Most Guys are until they learn how to talk to Ladies. I have found that thinking of a Lady as a friend makes it easy. Not a Girlfriend just a friend.

Don't go for a date go for talking at first. Your in the same church so use something about the church to give you a reason to start talking to her. Maybe asking her and the girls around her if they will be at a special event that's coming up. She will give you a hint if she wants you to ask her to the event. Once she opens that door you need to walk in and ask her or if your lucky she will ask you and all you have to do is say yes hehehe.

If you need to you can make it a group outing so its not you asking her, it's a group getting together and from there you can move in slowly. Her friends will help you if you watch them for hints.

Good luck
Dennis777

[JonLR92]

Oh also I forgot to mention that her cousin likes me and I don't know if asking her out will ruin her relationship with her cousin, I don't want to have to put any pressure on this girl on her decision to be with me. Thank you so much for answering

[huno]

oh also i forgot to mention that her cousin likes me and i dont know if asking her out will ruin her relationship with her cousin, i dont want to have to put any pressure on this girl on her decision to be with me. thank you so much for answering

This may sound really selfish, but you really shouldn't care too much. Her cousin will get over it. It's a sort of rejection that all of us have to go through; it's not your fault you're attracted to this girl.

Go for it. Go for it soon.

[JonLR92]

Thanks a lot bro I appreciate it

[JonLR92]

The 12th is the day to do this, pray for me