[Zeus2007]

Here is the story,
Got involved with a married woman with 3 kids and loser husband. She has been trying to divorce him and it would be difficult to do so but could be done. Me single dad going through a separation. I think we have been verry honest with each other, I know I have. So she finds out that he is cheating on her for sure. She ends up calling me a few days later and tells me she doesn't want to be with anybody that this blow was just a bust for her. I am leaving out tons of small details that are relevant that makes me think she is telling me the truth. She wants space and time to finish up what she has got to do for herself and her kids. She says that the pain of his cheating struck her in the gut and caught her off guard even though she knew it was happening.

I am going to give her space and prob even date very soon. My question, Is she being truthful or just softening the blow? Have any of you been truthful ?

[vlee]

I can't answer that question, but if that is what she is telling you and you feel she is being honest, then that is what you have to believe. Just because she knew things weren't right with her husband doesn't mean she was prepared to handle the emotions involved with divorce. Besides, if she isn't even divorced yet, it is too soon to try to form a long lasting relationship for her. She needs time to adjust and organize her life. If you want to be with her, you'd be smart to wait. If you are looking for a casual deal, you shouldn't look toward a newly divorced woman, because she isn't ready to handle that.

[chuff]

It's hard to tell if she's being truthful or not. I tend to think she is but I wouldn't put money on it either.

That being said, that's a lot of drama for you to walk into, and expose your child too. I think it's best you let her go, perhaps forever, perhaps for a year but let her go for now and let her deal with her own problems. If you find someone else in the meantime, great if not and she gets a divorce and feels better in a year or later then that's also great and you can try to start something then.

[Zeus2007]

What makes you think she is lying Chuff? Just wondering .

[s_cianci]

She's probably being truthful. Forget about her and move on. Just make sure that you address all the issues affecting you from your own marriage before you get serious with anyone else.