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    bulldozer2328 Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Dec 7, 2010, 10:02 PM
    Girlfriend says she's not sure she's in love after 6 months ?
    We've been dating for 6 months now and things have been great I the guy came out after 3 months and said I love you... we've been saying it back and forth sense and it hasn't been a big deal or anything.. now the other night she comes out and says I'm not sure I love you the same way you do me and I don't want to break up and I'm sorry for hurting you.. I'm happy with you and every now and then I feel it and then I don't shouldn't I just know for sure 100%... well after all of this we ended up doing the deed. Then I was told I'm the only guy she wants and then only one to ___ her and what not... I didn't get mad or yell or anything more unless in shock and what not,, now she still want me to say I love you to her and everything... I'm so confused.. I think she is falling for me and she's afraid because she's never been in love per say and doesn't want to get hurt.. I don't get it I'm happy with her and she says she's the same so??
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    Dec 9, 2010, 08:21 AM
    I honestly believe she is afriad if this is her first relationship or first time having a good boyfriend. Still when you said I love you 3 months ago she possible just said it because you said it. The word love is used so often it tends to rub of on you. She says she care for you so give her time talk to her. It seems your relation ship is good. Not every one falls in love with in 6 months some times it takes many months or years. Just give it time. Don't rush it and tell her how you feel. Tell her she should say it when she is ready to say it. It will come when its time
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    Dec 9, 2010, 02:08 PM

    How old are you both?
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    Dec 9, 2010, 05:49 PM

    I think you should tell her that you are not sure you want to be with someone who isn't sure. In other words you want to take charge of this situation and then remove yourself from it. Create some space and see what her reactions and actions are as a result.
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    Dec 9, 2010, 07:28 PM

    You've only been dating 6 months... I think you answered your own question. She is likely afraid.

    She may need to take more time... there is nothing wrong with that. She was honest to acknowledge that she wasn't sure that she was feeling the same as you, but now you feel she may be falling more for you. Maybe she is... so if you enjoy being with her, feel that your feelings are growing stronger as well, give it time. Don't rush the relationship.
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    Dec 10, 2010, 08:23 AM

    "Jeha does not find this helpful: why take a chance and break-up a good relationship"

    Yeah, it's such a great relationship that she's playing games with him. Get real, he needs to take charge of this situation.
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    Mar 12, 2011, 06:32 AM
    Maybe she's afraid or something like its her 1st relstionship, OR she likes someone else
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    Mar 12, 2011, 06:44 AM

    You can't force love.

    I think she will come around to it soon, just likely afraid.
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    Mar 12, 2011, 06:46 AM
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    Yaa he's right u can't force someone to love u :)
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