[BrokenHeartsDontMend]

Last year I had this teacher that I have thought about everyday since I met her. No I'm not gay and I'm not attracted to her in a sexual way, but don't know why I can't stop thinking about her. I started dreaming about her and now its nothing new. She moved away about 9 months ago and I still haven't gone a day without thinking about her... we keep in touch through email but I haven't received one from her in a while. I've tried not to show how much I am obsessed with her and I think she still doesn't know... her nor anyone else. I need help. My whole revolves around her, from what I eat to the clothes I wear. Everything that has to do with her, I try to have also. I don't know what this feelings is and I need help! What am I going through??

-broken-hearts-dont-mend

[mrs.pennell]

It sounds to me like you found a person that you really connected with. That doesn't mean that you are gay or that there is anything wrong with you. Unfortunately you haven't talked to her in a while and clearly that is upsetting you. You would be surprised how many students this can happen too. I have taught in a high school for a few years and I am in my twenties. I don't look much older than the students I teach. I have had many experiences with students that want to build friendships with me, they want to know how I spend my spare time. What music do I listen to, what clothes do I like, all kinds of stuff like that. I think it results from just being listened to. A teacher is a person who won't judge you (hopefully) and wants to help you, in school and in life. I made many special bonds with students of mine. You will eventually feel better about missing this special person. And hopefully you will find these qualities in another person. Time heals all wounds and this too will pass.