[sach007]

Hello, I'm married man man working in company and I know this married women since past 1 year. I'm giving her lift in my car and we are friends. I said in the past that I like her and she is OK with that. But since there are mixed signals and signs which are confused me. I avoid her in office and won't talk much to keep her out of rumour talk. Recently I gave her birthday gift and she liked that too much. She has quite lot of friends and shee keeps talking a lot on telephone. I doubt about her sometimes. Now since I'm on tour , we did not exchanged any texts messages and I was waiting her to enquire @ me. But it is not happening. I'm really confused whether I can continue or ignore her... It seems she will not call/text me and she is just using me.. I need help

[odinn7]

She's married... you're married. You should just back off this until both of you aren't married. I don't think too many members here will come along and guide you into ways of getting this woman so you can both cheat.

[Cat1864]

Sach, what exactly are you wanting from this woman?

It sounds like you are attempting to have an affair with her. Even if you are not expecting a sexual relationship, you appear to be wanting an emotional one. Have you stopped and thought about the consequences of being unfaithful to your respective spouses?

She is married. She is only available to be a friend. She has an obligation to her husband and family to remain faithful and loyal to them, not to you. Even if they are having marital problems or live in different places, she should remember her duties as a wife and put them before any friendship which would endanger her marriage.

If you avoid her at work to keep her out of the 'gossip' then you aren't treating her like a friend and co-worker. Behavior like that does get noticed and discussed.

You are married. You have an obligation and duty to your wife and family to remain faithful and loyal. You have a duty to put your energy into working with your wife to improve your marriage instead of into chasing after a co-worker. If your marriage is so damaged and in ruins that there is no conceivable way to fix it, then leave your wife and take the necessary steps to dissolve the marriage by the laws of your locality and religion. Do not wait until you have a replacement for your wife to leave. If you have children, remember that they are still your responsibility to help raise whether you are married to their mother or not.

If you continue to attempt to keep in contact with this woman, keep this thought in mind, 'How would I react if my wife was having an affair?' Be very honest with yourself. It might give you some insight into how your wife would react to finding out about your co-worker and how your co-worker's husband might react to her having an affair.

[mmresd]

Stop all contact with this female unless you absolutely have to talk to her (work related). She is married and you are married, respect your marriage and respect her and her marriage before you lead her to do something you both will regret in the future.

[talaniman]

When in doubt, seek the wise counsel of your wife to see if this female is using you or not. Her insights will be invaluable to you.

[kcomissiong]

Sounds like she is being a responsible spouse, while you are not. Once she knew you liked her, she started staying away from you. Good. You should start respecting your marriage and spouse and do the same.