Originally Posted by
nene1003
:confused: :confused: My boyfriend of 5 years has had a serious drug problem on and off for the last 3 years. He is advancing from one drug to another and i dont think it could get much worse. Surprisingly he has kept his job but we are growing further & further apart. He is 27 years old. Every single day he is on drugs and we hardly talk and barely see eachother cause I refuse to be with him when he is on drugs. He refuses help and whenever I cry or beg him to get help he tells me he will stop soon and for me to please be patient with him. How long should I put my life on hold?????? Should I leave him???????????
HI, I am so sorry that you are going through this. My younger brother, he was 35 y/o when he died of a massive system shutdown in Egypt on December 26th, 2 years ago, was addicted to heroine and cocaine. It started years prior. I went though everything with him, rehab, taking him to rehab, reovery groups, picking him late at night, stolen wallets, him stealing my cars and giving them to drug dealers. My brother was a wonderful person, he never met a stranger... he was smart, intelligent, and would make you feel like you were the most important person in the world. But, he was an addict. I felt very guilty after he passed. I thought, "if only I had done more", but there's not more you can do. Your boyfriend, my brother and every other addict out there.. has to make the decision to stop. They have to want to stop. You can be there for him when he does decide... you can not make him feel like a failure when he does try, and doesn't succees the first time. It takes many times. You have to be firm, however, and let him know that there is no relationship with you, while he is on drugs. It will not be an overnite change, but it is possible. My brother was clean for 1 year until he moved over seas and got into stronger addictions. We thought he was fine, he wasn't. Tell your boyfriend, that I remember getting the phone call at 2:00 a.m. from the US Embassy in Egypt, asking me if I had a brother. They had identified him by his passport. It is a very hard thing to go through. We had to meet the casket at the airport to claim his body. My brother left a host of friends in every country, colleagues that respected him, family that loved him and especially a niece that adored him. He had just gotten a job to be a consultant to the Olympic Games in Qatar. Drugs destoy good people. Tell your boyfriend, its not worth it. Life is, can be, should be wonderful. Best of Luck and you are both in my prayers.