Should I reach out to her?
A week ago I asked the forum if it is a good sign of things to come that my girlfriend (or former... I don't know, you got me) texted me with a nice thought after a brief encounter outside our gym. (After 5 months of serious dating she had asked for space). Most replied that it is not necessarily an indication she wants something more at the moment, to continue to give her space and to continue to work on my life's challenges. OK good advice - thank you.
One of the things we used to discuss while we were together was my house. See, I purchased my current house with my ex wife (oh... point of clarification here, the reason I'm divorced is NOT because of my gf). After my ex wife moved out my girlfriend was always coming over (I selfishly rarely went to her place). When we stared "talking" about the future, she was adament about not moving in, nor temporarily moving in whilst we looked for a home together. I now know she was right and I was (again) selfish for not seeing it her way, only mine.
Once we separated, I got to thinking about what she said (coupled with therapy). My house is quite lonely and large for a single guy. I'm up in the mountains and away from things - kind of secluded. These points coupled with the fact I purchased my home with my ex wife started me thinking about selling. I came to the realization that selling is the right thing option (for all the right reasons). Long story short (very long and winded) I'm selling my home. This is NOT a ploy to get her back, only for me to start on a clean slate in a new area near better energy (so to speak).
I've not reached out to her to date, only in response to a passive email and text message. Should I tell my ex what I'm doing? I don't want to scare her in thinking I'm doing this to get her back but I do want her to know that I've made the decision and that her point of view/point of contention was a contributing factor in my decision to move.
I welcome your thoughts.
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