[MeadowlarkJess]

A dear friend of mine of many years was recently accused by someone I hardly know of having abused this person a long time ago.

This person doesn't remember the accuser or the abuse, but seems horrified by it and is willing to own up to it and wants to identify and stop any abusive behaviours within themselves.

I'm just wondering what I should make of my friend's response is all. She seems Genuine to me and that is what I'm going on at this point.

[Wondergirl]

What kind of abuse? Physical? Emotional? Sexual?

[MeadowlarkJess]

Unwanted Attention..... All I (and my friend) can think is that she probably inadvertently flirted with this person..... My friend and I are both Autistic and as such can sometimes be aloof to how our actions might be mistaken for something entirely different by other people.

[Wondergirl]

How old is your friend and her accuser?

[MeadowlarkJess]

My friend is 34.... I believe the accuser is about the same age, give or take a year.

[Wondergirl]

I'm trying to figure out where the abuse is in this. Being guilty of flirting isn't abuse. Good grief! So many guys flirted with me over the years. What am I missing? How is this abuse?

[MeadowlarkJess]

Same thing I'm wondering, Wondergirl.

[Wondergirl]

I certainly wouldn't apologize for flirting!

Was the abuse given a name and definition?

[MeadowlarkJess]

No. The so-called "victim" was extremely vague about what was supposedly done.

[Wondergirl]

No. The so-called "victim" was extremely vague about what was supposedly done.

Then all the more reason your friend need not apologize. I am married to a guy on the autism spectrum and our adult son was diagnosed with Asperger's. I can't imagine what was done that was so "unwanted."

[MeadowlarkJess]

Y'all have totally missed the point. I wasn't asking if they should apologize. I was asking what I should make of their response to this information.

[Wondergirl]

Y'all have totally missed the point. I wasn't asking if they should apologize. I was asking what I should make of their response to this information.

I would let my friend handle it as she thinks best.

[talaniman]

You make nothing of it unless more is revealed and you gain a better understanding of the whole situation. Realize that may or may not happen, and you will never know what to make of it.