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We've been in a relationship for over 20 years.
We both have trust issues, nonw of it to do with cheating

Im more than happy to cop a mouthful about my snooping.
I have never met any of her...

Yep I'm in trouble!!

My long term partner has a friend who has sent her messages basically saying that he would like to sleep with her. That's she's a 'honey' and he wants to look at her all day. My partner told him that...

You are being very disrespectful.

What's there to "get thru to her"... She said no.
You need to "get thru to yourself" that you've pushed it and now she won't even answer your calls. She...

Why is she hand feeding you? Don't your arms work?

That's just weird...

Im going to be a bit harsh:

So what do you expect?

A dog will always be a dog. You were told this before and ignored it.

Being a marine won't make him cheat. Being away from you won't make...

Stop focusing on her for starters.

She's not the problem. He is.

He is responsible for his own behaviour. So stop blaming her and letting him off the hook.

What's the point if nothings changed?

So you get hurt more? Not very smart is it... :confused:

You've already been given advice to help end this.

Your choice is to either tell him its over or too just stop all contact. Change phone numbers, emails etc etc.

If he doesn't respect your...

Speak to his wife. Im sure she'll pass on the message.

But seriously aren't you sick of this drama? When you look back at this time in your life you are going to wonder what the hell were you...

Take responsibility for your actions.

You made this mess so now is the time to clean it up.

I was in a relationship where I wasn't in love with the person anymore. I loved them, but, wasn't "in...

Give her what she wants... SPACE

To her that means don't call, don't text, don't do anything. Leave her alone.

She cheated on you and came up with a lame "i dont remember" excuse. Doesn't...

You need to start being selfish...

Think of your family and especially your husband. To attempt suicide twice because of financial stress and then see you giving it to your ungrateful mother...

Your doing the same thing over and over and you expect a different outcome?

Either your living in a fantasy land, enjoy the drama or as Talaniman said:
"STUCK ON STUPID"

Seriously time to wake...

The same part that doesn't understand she's being used, manipulated and played big time.

When she gets sick of getting sloppy seconds she'll move on :mad:

Ok then what do you want to know?

I would have thought you'd want to know who it is to stop this from happening. Call me crazy... :confused::confused::confused:

Your first post made it sound...

Tell the police.

Im sure he's been standing and chucking his cigarette butts everywhere.

Let them do there job. Don't touch anything. But you must report this.

Why wouldn't you if someone is...

Sounds like he's got issue with what's appropriate and what's not and boundaries.

Warning sign number 1?

Its nice that she did all those things for you on her birthday... BUT...

When the ****e hits the fan who does she call? And its not ghostbusters and its not you.

She seems to have a few issues...

You need to see the forest for the trees...

If her "family issues" are so major that they cause her to be suicidal then I would rethink this 7 month relationship. Because when she's finished...

Doesn't matter if she's gay, straight or bi... she's a dishonest, cheating *^#@

Being bi-sexual doesn't give you the right to cheat on your partner.

Its great she's finally come to the decision...

I would grow up and move on.

You didn't want him so he found someone else. Whether it was the night after he put his tongue down your throat or two years that's none of your business...

Don't...

You need to listen to Talaniman and leave it alone.

We all have out limits of what we will put up with, when you get sick of this you will move on.

Not before more damage is done unfortuantely.

aurora_rena... I'm not up with what's merged or was merged but I will say that when someone comes here for advice you only here one side of the story or in your case stories...

That's what advice...

In a nutshell:

She misses me. She's lonely.(Yeah.. boredom) She said that's she hope's I don't mind her contacting me as she knows that I said I had to move on with my life.

Our anniversary is...

Ok another plug of my own dramas.

When I read that exe's always come back I never believed it. But surprisingly after 7.5 months mine has. Got an email today. Don't know how she managed that as...

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Stop the sex and see how long...

All your setbacks have been due to "mutual friends" giving you info.

I don't think the "mutual friends" have your best interest in mind.

Don't get updates on what she's doing or it will keep...

She's a big girl and will do what she wants to. We always want the best for the people we care for just like your parents did for you. Doesn't mean we do it.

The best thing for you would be to...

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Wow its all about you isn't it?

The best thing that could happen is she dumps your sorry *** on the side walk...

You would be so bored if you did that... :o

One good thing, among many, is now you, like me, can spot the red flags and will pay attention. I have always ignored them cause I was in looooooove!! ...

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Rep system is slightly annoying... :rolleyes:

I agree with Talaniman... take it slow, keep it lighthearted and...

Good stuff. Take it easy with the new girl. No pedestals!!

Don't forget to name your first born after AMHD!

(Kinda sounds like ADHD so maybe not :p)

Sit him down and ask him to be your partner?

If he doesn't want too then that is your answer.

You have no choice.

She's told you she just wants you as a friend. She has feelings for someone else. Respect that.

If you can't do that then leave her alone. Don't pretend you can be her...

What difference will it make?

He left for whatever reason. You keep stewing over this and you WILL NOT move on.

Let it go. I know its hard. But for your own well being you need to try.

Keep doing what your doing then.
No contact and keeping busy.

Try not to play over and over in your head the why's and how comes anymore. It doesn't matter. Not does it matter what's going on in...

Harshness warning:

Sorry to say but no good can come of this.

As has been already said by previous posters, if she wanted to sort things out you should be doing it together.

She's playing...

You know its not good to get updates and you also know that what she's thinking is none of your business anymore.

So stop torturing yourself!! :p

Stop being in contact with him.

How do you expect to move on when you obviously can't manage "being friends"?

If it hurts you shouldn't be in contact with him.

YES



Stop calling him so much.

There's another thread here regarding the same issue and the great advice given was to have set times for calling on set days. And that is all except for...

Why don't you break up with the boyfriend and in April leave?

Is his name on the lease?

How long have you been with him?

I knew a family that was very similair. But in this family the father...

Doesn't the fact she's avoiding you tell you something?

How far are you willing to grovel at her feet? Because that's what your doing and that's how she will see it.

Before you do anything read...

Your boss for one needs to grow some balls. He can ban him from the shop. If he comes back he is trespassing. Simple. Done.

Plus if you have witnesses who have seen your ex there on a consistent...

Tell the police.
Change your phone number.
Keep a diary of date/times of all these events.
Tell your fiancé.
Ignore him as much as humanely possible.
Why hasn't your boss called the police to...

She was horny.
You were available.
And to her you are safe.

Just sit down and talk to her. You are both only 20. Plenty of life left to live to be hung up on one girl.

Ok.. Im mixed with this one...

Is the daughter complaining? Is he complaining?

You are the only one that's complaining.

Youve said its not sexual ie incest/pedo stuff havent you?

They...

Maybe you should be the one "getting the picture"?

She actually typed this in Post #4 in response to your post as you had misread what she had typed.




Then she typed in Post #8

That's why you need to leave her alone. For you.

She has ended the relationship but keeps you hanging on a string which she can tug at anytime to get your attention.

She's told you that you can...

Why would you want to make him yours? He manipulating you and your falling for it.

Yes you will live without him. Your alive now aren't you?

Get a life for yourself that doesn't include him.