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    There have been lots of great suggestions for...

    There have been lots of great suggestions for saving money on the wedding. I'd also like to suggest that beautiful worn-once designer wedding gowns are sold everyday on eBay for hundreds, if not...
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    I wouldn't take it personally, because...

    I wouldn't take it personally, because traditionally, only the parents, the couple, and those in the wedding party are included in the rehearsal dinner. Child attendants are optional, and if included...
  3. That is a great idea. I hadn't thought of her...

    That is a great idea. I hadn't thought of her being asked to do something in preparation, but it would give her a focus and a purpose and perhaps deflect the negative energy that is sure to come our...
  4. Third and final stepson to be married in September -destination wedding

    Well, I thought we had heard everything. First stepson's wedding we were kept in the dark, second stepson's wedding we were invited to help with the planning and host, and now comes the final wedding...
  5. I hope your rehearsal dinner went well! We were...

    I hope your rehearsal dinner went well! We were in a similar position not too long ago, but it was my stepson's mother who refused to contribute to the rehearsal dinner. Wishing to take the high...
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    Well here's a post script. They were married last...

    Well here's a post script. They were married last fall. The ceremony was lovely. We've seen them twice since they were married. Once, when they came to pick up their gifts after Christmas, and...
  7. Question: In lieu of gifts

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    You really can't make suggestions about gifts to...

    You really can't make suggestions about gifts to bring unless you are asked about it by someone coming to the party. This is a difficult issue that people are faced with all the time, particularly...
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    We typically give $50.00 for college graduation...

    We typically give $50.00 for college graduation gifts to the children of close friends. When I graduated from college 25 years ago, $25-30.00 was the norm. We also give $75-100. To our nieces and...
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    A simple card expressing sincere thanks to the...

    A simple card expressing sincere thanks to the Dr. and his staff is what is appropriate. It would be unusual to receive anything else, and perhaps a little uncomfortable on the part of the Dr. as he...
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    At times, in the interest of gaining a better...

    At times, in the interest of gaining a better understanding of a situation it is necessary to ask further questions in order to give a better answer. As you navigate this site more, you will find...
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    Good advice to keep things simple. Traditionally...

    Good advice to keep things simple. Traditionally the groom's family decides on the rehearsal dinner, not the bride. What does your stepson say? Is his mother sharing the costs?
    There are a lot of...
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    You can also have bridesmaids place their...

    You can also have bridesmaids place their bouquets on the reception tables as décor after the ceremony. If they are fresh cut, then simply have vases with water to place them in.
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    Definitely a nice gesture. My mother always sent...

    Definitely a nice gesture. My mother always sent flowers and a note the week after the showers.
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    I feel for your situation, as we have experienced...

    I feel for your situation, as we have experienced very similar scenarios. Here is some insight into what might be at the center of the mother's control issues, at least from what I observed at my own...
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    I am SO tempted to say something like that, but...

    I am SO tempted to say something like that, but part of me thinks it would just give him greater satisfaction, because that's how he is. He'll then act like we're being mean and unfair, and try...
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    Having been a person who has dealt with...

    Having been a person who has dealt with self-loathing off and on for my entire life, I can tell you that the anger I have directed outwardly at others is always misplaced. It has been a direct result...
  17. Question: Evil step mom

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    It's a terrible situation you are in, and as...

    It's a terrible situation you are in, and as others have said please do seek help from the police or someone at school. I kept waiting for you to make the case for the evils of your stepmom, but...
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    I'm going to do a lock upgrade in a few weeks. I...

    I'm going to do a lock upgrade in a few weeks. I know the"freeloader" will be out of town until then, so he won't be getting in anyway... presumably no one else will be stopping by either. At this...
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    Yes - I agree - 30 years old is definitely old...

    Yes - I agree - 30 years old is definitely old enough to stop expecting parents to support your every last-minute whim. This child has grown up with an unfortunate view of people. They are only worth...
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    Right now I'm looking online for some kind of...

    Right now I'm looking online for some kind of deadbolt door lock that requires a punched in code. We can just delete a code if we give one out for temporary use, but then at least he would have to...
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    I agree that a thank you note is required when a...

    I agree that a thank you note is required when a gift is given to a couple for their wedding - monetary or otherwise. This is an expectation, not an option, and indeed, manners are manners all over...
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    Yes - they are his family, which is why it's such...

    Yes - they are his family, which is why it's such an issue. He wouldn't have a problem changing the locks for those outside of the family (in fact we have in the past), but feels that because this...
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    Oh, the insurance angle is a good one! This...

    Oh, the insurance angle is a good one! This family member knows his dad lives in fear of being sued/taken to the cleaners by idiots who'd rather not work but sue people for their livelihood.
    I...
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    Oh - that is a good idea! I didn't know that...

    Oh - that is a good idea! I didn't know that there were systems like that. Do you have any brands I could search for? I think you are right about them not wanting to call us each time they feel the...
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    Well, my husband doesn't want to ask for the key...

    Well, my husband doesn't want to ask for the key back... feels guilty about it apparently. This wouldn't bug me so much if the family members with the key made an effort to come to our family...
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    Others have said things along these same lines,...

    Others have said things along these same lines, but I caution you to not get involved in this situation for a few reasons.
    1) Consider the character of a married man who is cheating on his wife and...
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    Unwelcome Houseguests

    We have a vacation home which we use year-round to entertain our friends and family. Last year a family member requested a key, which my husband and I thought was due to a temporary situation. We...
  28. I agree, it's not done around here either. People...

    I agree, it's not done around here either. People just walk into the reception and are able to figure out who is who by where they were sitting in the ceremony, or who is seated at the head table,...
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    I recently attended a wedding on our state...

    I recently attended a wedding on our state capitol grounds. The grounds are lovely with fountains, gardens and beautiful statues, lawns perfectly manicured, and not a frisbee throwing person with...
  30. Question: Wedding Etiquette

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    I agree - it's rude to not acknowledge a gift...

    I agree - it's rude to not acknowledge a gift with a thank you note. An exception would be for a small hostess gift or some token given to say thank you. All other gifts should be acknowledged in...
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    Thanks Momtobe. Actually I am the stepmom. My...

    Thanks Momtobe. Actually I am the stepmom. My concern is entirely for my husband, and his neither being intentionally excluded nor embarrassed by his ex in a semi-public venue, as is her custom. We...
  32. Question: Wedding Gown

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    I think that the sash suggestion above is a good...

    I think that the sash suggestion above is a good one! You can also have your alterations person sew a navy trim around the hem/train of your gown to match the sash. This way you get the dress you...
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    Thank you for your suggestions. My husband is not...

    Thank you for your suggestions. My husband is not an orator, and is somewhat uncomfortable by the prospect. He doesn't want to step on toes, though wants to be appropriate and not out of turn. I'm...
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    Toasting at rehearsal dinner

    Here's an unusual situation... Stepson's mother refused money we offered to help with the expenses of the rehearsal dinner (wanted top billing, apparently). Our wedding check to the stepson helped...
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    Hmmm... what about sitting in the pew with your...

    Hmmm... what about sitting in the pew with your in-laws, and then having your husband join you after escorting his daughter. Assuming, of course, that the in-laws are attending and in the picture....
  36. Question: Songs for wedding

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    Try this site: Wedding Reception Music and Songs,...

    Try this site: Wedding Reception Music and Songs, Popular Wedding Songs
    They have lots of great ideas for specific dedications. Some personal favorites are:
    I Hope You Dance - Lee Ann Womack
    At...
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    I am a little late in coming to this picnic, but...

    I am a little late in coming to this picnic, but I have to echo the sentiments expressed above. You are not being unreasonable. The bride is if she expects you to back down on your early declaration...
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    OK - Clicked on this discussion and found two of...

    OK - Clicked on this discussion and found two of my all time favorites in your first post. I love Shawshank and The Prestige. My remaining three are:
    Cinderella Man ( gut wrenching, dark and heroic)...
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    Yes you are right. My gut tells me to lay low,...

    Yes you are right. My gut tells me to lay low, and it sounds like from your experiences that's the best course to take at this point. DH and I just write the checks. SS and future DIL live about 2...
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    I had the same issue with my MIL, and was hurt...

    I had the same issue with my MIL, and was hurt and frustrated with her for two years. Nothing I did was ever right, and she was always giving little pieces of advice to me as if I would never in a...
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    Great thoughts above on this issue. One other...

    Great thoughts above on this issue. One other thing, if you always imagine yourself on the receiving end of your words in a similar siruation and you're OK with it, voice your thoughts. The older I...
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    Thanks so much for the suggestions. Just as I...

    Thanks so much for the suggestions. Just as I thought, I will be biting my tongue! I appreciate the wisdom and experience everyone has shared. Manners are important to me, and I value the use of...
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    Treading lightly around future daughter in law.

    Our future daughter in law appears to be having some trouble with addressing invitations correctly, i.e. using official titles, and including spouses. The invitations also contained several of those...
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