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Thank you both for your replies.
I have a feeling it´s not the ex who is an issue here - I feel ashamed about something that is linked to him and I probably never got over that or even faced it.
I...

I would never contact him, Smoothy. I don´t want to be part of his life and would not want him in my life. There is something that irritates me about him, so I feel really blessed he dumped me. I...

I was dumped 30 years ago by a man I was engaged to and it did something to me I have never understood and probably not fully dealt with. Hence the 30 years. I don´t think about him every day, it´s...

Thanks for that, Jake. I allowed it to continue for too long before I had the courage to really end it. But it was worth it and I felt a huge burden had lifted when it was over.

Thank you all for...

I ended what I considered an unhealthy friendship many years ago. The friendship was not good for me and it took a long time to make it clear to the person I wanted to end the friendship. I have not...

A short update:

She called me last night and apologized. Said she would pay my compensation tomorrow and she already did. Will pay me the rest of what I´m owed before Christmas.

No one else has...

I tried to be tough and angry at first and it backfired. She did not even reply to me and we got into a verbal argument. Thankfully no one heard it, but it showed me those tactics do not work with...

Hi ScottGem,

I get what you say, but this is not an ideal situation. I don´t intend to do this all my life, either. My aim is to make the project bigger, I´m discussing collaboration with the...

Some update: I sent her an email this morning where I asked when I could expect to be payed my salary for December.

She replied this time and apologized. Said things are unusually hard right now...

Thanks for that Scott.

I´m still waiting for my salary plus more than 2000 dollars worth of payment for the extra job for them. My boss payed me 183 dollars this morning, which is a joke. I guess...

My country is in Scandinavia, but I will rather not name it here. I´ll send you a PM to tell you where it is. In most places in Scandinavia we have smaller cities and everybody is always into other...

This is great advice! I need to call my creditors and set the date towards the middle of the month. Good idea about having the mortgage money one month ahead, I´m working towards that.

This has...

No, all of us get payed late, but I´m among the ones who get payed the latest.

You´re absolutely right about my own personal finances. Five years ago I was so depressed I could not get out of bed...

It is a payment to my company from their company for my services.

My former boss understood I needed the money at the beginning of each month and payed every time.

I´m thinking about talking...

Hi ScottGem,

I´m not in the States but in Scandinavia, so I don´t understand W2 or 1099. I´m hired as a contractor. The government funds this company a certain amount and the company is supposed...

Hi paraclete and thanks for the reply.

I know the company has really bad cash flow problems as it almost went bankrupt in 2012 and went through some specific kind of treatment where some debts...

I need strength more than anything and probably some ideas.

I was unemployed and riddled with debt for a long time, but I started a small project that grew steadily from 2010 until now in...

Thanks! Good answer.

Just one more thing though...

I´m afraid this friend of mine will eventually tell my daughter´s friends she was asked to integrate herself with them because of me. What do I do about it, if or...

Thanks Synnen.

The idea of the priest is great. I´m going to check with my local church.

I´m afraid to send the letter, I´m so scared she will mail it return to sender. Could I ask the priest...

I hope someone can help me.

Many years ago I was manipulated into giving my daughter. She was raised up abroad by a couple, who belong to a certain religion, Scientology.

Now she has moved back...

And you sound like an aggressive troll instead of someone who should be helping people.

Another aggressive, abusive reply and I will report you.

Thanks for keeping away.

Altenweg,

You obviously haven´t worked at a European University if you have to ask these questions and try to belittle our work.

I´ve had all the help I need and I thank you all for your input.

Thanks, Cat.

Thanks to all of you, I can now see my ex-boyfriend in a new light and I feel so lucky he dumped me.

Mid-life crisis is his problem, that´s why he slaves at the gym and just bought...

It´s a delicate situation.

One of our friend´s spouse had a Masters degree in our subjects, and we want to include her. She is also a wonderful friend. However, she only comes when she is invited....

Gemini, Heartonsleev, Wondergirl, Redhead... Thank you so much.

I think you´re right that she is insecure, but so am I. You have pointed out what I should do and I will follow your advice. You´ve...

I know I need to be stronger, but I´m just low right now and they are constantly in my face. It takes a stronger woman than me to beat them at this game they´re playing.

He dumped me, yes, because...

I´m trying to, but it´s hard when we sit in a sofa for a few hours and she keeps cuddling him and nibbling his ears in front of me.

She tries to humiliate me and it´s very hard not to think about...

Thanks so much for your kind reply, but it´s a bit more complicated.

This is work related and I cannot skip the events. I should have included that in my reply. I´m not going to lose this over...

Hi,

I need help so badly.

I had a boyfriend for a while, but he dumped me and started being with another woman.

I have been trying to get over it, but the problem is, we both belong to a...

Hi, I´m back with unresolved stiletto issues! :)

I hope you´re really well and having a wonderful summer.

I did everything you advised me to do, I kept a log book, took photos, talked with my...

You´re right, Chuck. There are rules here too, probably similar to what you have in the States, but my neighbor has never respected any kind of rules. I´m sure it has something with the way she´s...

Thank you so much, Jake.

I´m glad you´re there. Yes, I´ve kept a diary, or better yet a log book, and the council has photos of the house before and after she tore down this entryway, which caused...

Hi everybody,

Those stilettos are back - along with hammer, saws and nails.

I have consulted a lawyer and I have enough to sue for damages on my house. I have also decided to move, but how...

She´s actually not Thai, she´s Scandinavian like me. She married a man from Thailand and had a son with him. He has a new girlfriend who is Thai and they come over from time to time to spend time...

Hi,

She´s back with her stiletto heels thumping on my ceiling. Turns out she was in the Fjords with her parents. I met them in the driveway. She didn´t say hello, but I exchanged a few words with...

Skyman,

I think we have all been where you are and had these thoughts for awhile.

It´s when they turn into obsessive thoughts and our control is slipping, we really need help.

If you are...

Thanks for the advice, Jake.

My problem is that she cannot stand my actions concerning the signpost and having unauthorized cars towed away. Since that signpost went up last summer, she´s been...

Happy new year! :)

Wondergirl, those neighbors of yours must have been hell on earth! Using your toilet facility for their friend´s children, indeed! You were in a really bad spot there.

It´s...

Hi,

I´m in Scandinavia and the recession has crippled the real estate market. I need to wait for a while, but I´ve seriously thought about moving.

It´s a pity because I live in a beautiful...

Thanks, Mrscoltweaver. I will. :)

Thanks, Wondergirl.

Great advice. I won´t retaliate, I never do that, because I know it leads to more difficulties.

I do know about nosy neighbors and noise. It´s another kind of real boring...

OK, great.

What about the persistent noise? Her son´s hopping on the floor and her stamping on the parquet on high heels, vacuum-cleaning and banging pots and pans together? My walls are shaking,...

Thanks a lot, both of you. You´ve been most helpful.

I will most certainly ignore her, but what if she bangs on my door for a confrontation as usual? I don´t want any more talks. She just becomes...

Hi everybody,

Hoping you´re all having a wonderful Christmas.

I wonder if you have some advice regarding a difficult neighbor.
We share a house that has been converted into two flats. We own...

I recently met a man I really like. We met through a small project and started talking on the phone for long hours. We know lots of the same people and found out we have many things in common.

He...

Hi, I´m back with a new question and update.

I am finalizing my deals with the banks. Both have agreed to convert my credit card debts plus all the monthly installments into one big loan but one...

Talaniman,

Yes, I have real friends are who are very close to me. :)

I just find it useful to go through an issue that bothers me and ask impartial people like you, for instance, what you...

Thanks for your input. I really appreciate it.

I´m still wondering if I should start some casual friendship from a far, because I certainly don´t need the drama, or if I should tell her how her...

I have a small dilemma.

I have an old friend who I used to love very much.

A little over a year ago, I lost a parent and my house fell a part at the same time, so I had to have massive...