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LOL HA HA HA

Ill tell her to come and say hi!! :))))

<And you my friend. How's it going? I have a feeling pretty good ? ( I sure hope so)>

Hey all , I was on vacation for a while so didn't see the updates,
Im doing very well thanks! Very happy and...

Like she says she just wants to concentrate on her studies and not really worry about a relationship for now.

Let her contact you and don't get clingy.

Hey Zerou,

She probably feels like she is your world, try and give her the space she needs,

Get busy wioth your own friends and activities and do fun things apart from her,

You are prob...

Yeah very fast:-)

How's it going allheart?:) u have a cute piccy:)

Hey guys , hope ye are all doing great:)

Yourself esteeem has probably been lowered for a few reasons and right now you probably feel like you need him too much, perhaps he senses too much responsibility for your hapiness also and maybe he...

I think he needs to look after his own issues, and deal with his own depression, you cannot do that for him,

Let him work on himself, how long has he been depressed or is it just recently ?
...

Nishnac , I've been a similar situation ,

Lesson : if a guy is unsure about you let him go, do not ask or nag.
If someone wants to be with you they do not need to think twice,

Tell him you...

The stress could be a factor. Ive a friend who went through the same thing.

For now get on with your own life and focus on you.

<She even said I was perfect... I was just not the right gender. That's right. The woman I loved for 7 years finally decided that she could no longer lie to herself about being a lesbian.>

Wow.. ...

Mine was a year ago, now I feel totally healed and have began to date again. Ive met a very nice guy and we are taking things slow.

It takes time , but allow yourself to feel through all the...

<Please help - should I go through with the wedding or try to get girl 1 back?>
<I want to spend the rest of my life with girl 1 >

Well you snoozed and lost. She most probably does not want yo...

Yeap u will.

Hang in there , first months are so tough.

Yeah don't bother wasting your time.

Call a girl once, if she does not call back then move onto the next.

Hi Farfromnormal.

I'm happy you are no longer in limbo,

NC is hard, but as the months past it gets better.. you will have a lot of ups and downs along your healing journey, the anniversaries of...

<That's another debate on my mind – do I move and leave this all behind? Balls!>

Why not do that, get a new job, if you don't like the one you have why stay in it.

Make your own hapiness.
...

What's there to be nervous about its just a girl! :-)

NO don't bother replying to the text, just call her later.

OK u are a busy guy with a busy life so u have no time this weekend to meet !

Call her tomorrow tell her you are busy this weekend but you would like to meet her next week, how about a...

Well said Tal as usual.

Seriously Tyne, stop the texting, I hate getting text from guys that I meet , I prefer it they call directly and ask me out, text messaging is so childish.

Call in a...

<To be truthful, if he'd even sent a text saying "sorry it's not working, its over" that would've been easier to get my head around.
>

I guess he is still confused or trying to figure out if he...

Exactly well put..

How have your past relationships been gingerkid?

Try and understand why you have subconsciously chose this kind of man.
Abandonment issues as a child/ teenager?

<what doesn't kill us makes us stronger right?>

Dead right.
I came to the same conclusion.

Yes there is no need to reply to his text, he said he needed time so wait for him to contact.

<First time we ever rowed he wanted to end it, because he didn't understand that couples don't always...

Yeah abandoment from when we are young does cause a lot of damage in relationships... I lost a parent when I was young as well.

<but I know what my issues are and how I can fix them.>
...

I think the Facebook thing was all just an excuse really for him to end it.

Don't mention it.

Discuss furniture , bills and leave it at that.

Good for you farfrmnormal..

You have been really really strong and done the best thing possible.

Right now you both need to work on your issues.

You seem very mature for your age.

Do not contact him at all.

Musiciens are very passionate and independent. They do not like to feel like they are caged up .

Time will tell if he is able to be ready for the next step.
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Hi Farfromnormal.

I've read both of your threads and I'm unsure which to reply on but as this gives the full story I guess ill reply here.

I see a confused man and someone not ready for the...

HPallister,
Reading your posts you sound like me last year,

I know so well the sudden shock,
As Tal says people change...

He's going through his own grief right now and avoiding you is...

hpallister,
I'm reading your posts, hope things are going OK.

I know it's a tough tough time, but things will eventually get better.

Write some feeling letters to him but don't send them , it...

Don't confront him with anything.

I guess the porn is a distraction for him.

You just look after yourself.

Hi missinghim,

As Jeff says its like a death, except its worse as you see the corpse around, and you hear about the corpse and in many cases the corpse contacts from time to time,

What you are...

<We were both fresh out of relationships and we just liked each others company.>

Well maybe that should be a lesson for this one..
You need to fully heal here or else you will be rebounding...

<WHO'S TO SAY HE WON'T DO IT AGAIN. But then I think what if he learned from this mistake. And who's to say the next guy I give my heart and trust to won't do it too. And the next guy after that....

Good for you jeff, I think I remember your story.

<Has anyone experienced anything similar?>

I experienced something very similar last year from almost married to single within a week.

It was hard ,especially with all the mixed signals I...

Talk about everything now and get everything off your chest before you start NC.

Its most probably over.

<Do I just give up? >
He has given up hope and now you need to do the same.
You need...

Good for you DJ for sticking to no contact..

A friend of mine was in a similar sitution recently after 6 year relationship, he began sleeping around and suddenly when she quit the contact he...

<I accept its over for about an hour everyday, then its back to thinking he will realize how much he loves me and be back. I know one thing I've accepted, I will never fully get over this for the...

<A few weeks ago I would've taken him back no questions asked. NOT ANYMORE!! >

Hi missing,
What an awful situation,
However in some ways this is great... now you will be able to accept it is...

<that he loves me very much, but needs to sort his life out, and would probably consider a new start for us if some time passes and he still feels the same way about me, after living his life on his...

Why did he break up with his ex, what was the issue there?

You need to move on and focus on yourself as the others have said.

No contact of any kind. You do not want mixed signals now.

It...

At 35 years old you chose a guy of 20?!

I guess subconciously you did not want commitment and this is what you have now ended up getting.

Daisydew,
He sounds really commitmentphobic, he cannot commit to being in the relationship and he cannot commit to leaving it.

Go and buy the book 'hes scared she's scared'by steven carter, it...

<I am always positive when I see him and happy and I notice that he relaxes. He is telling me things he is proud of himself, things he has achieved. He might not want to come back, but at least I...

<ok it was a 5 yr relationship. We got along fine. 3 weeks ago he breaks up with me and says he hasn't experienced the world enough yet and 3 days later ends up dating a known $lut.
>

Hes not...

<The NC Grenade can be tossed after 2 months. It should reference anything you wish you'd said or needed to be said at the time of the break, that was lost in the shuffle>


Yes but if the...

Don't ask him if he has a girlfriend.

Yes if he really wants to talk he can come over and see you.