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You can't fool yourself into believing that you will trust her again just by deciding to do so. Or saying "i forgive u"

You don't trust her anymore, fact, and the long distance is making it worse...

Asking someone to contact you when they are 100% sure is also not a solution in my eyes.

They will convince themselves that they are to get what they want (the filling of some emotional need) and...

Extreme situations call for extreme measures. She has and is royally insulting you and your intelligence.

There are many ways to deal with this situation, one more hurtful to her than the other....

Well I'm glad u realize its pathetic. Now if you would realize that for the rest of the situation we can come to a constructive discussion.

You are so annoyed waiting because u attach great...

This is probably the worst plan I have seen written on this board. You are going to pretend you are together and than expect that your feelings will not come into play at all and you will not feel...

Good reply grayfox.

Seems like the moment you decided to end it, she hadn't quite made up her mind and would rather think about it with you still around as safety than alone, with a much bigger...

Never.

"Self-pity is easily the most destructive of the nonpharmaceutical narcotics; it is addictive, gives momentary pleasure and separates the victim from reality.” John W. Gardner

The only power we...

You are the one who messed up so in my book YOU are the one who should try and win him back! Not the other way around!

(u dumped him and expect him to ask his way back? Isn't going to happen)
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I totally understand where your coming from. You are with a woman who does not share the same norms and values as you do and this makes you wonder what else she is capable of.

I believe that...

The rule normally is that he should contact you since its his decision to break it off. Now you still don't know if he WANTS you back , or that the fact that you were just convenitnely there asking...

Ignoring is maybe a little harsh, but you could communicate to her that if she does not want to be with you, you will do what's best for yourself and take your personal time to get over her, meaning...

I'm sorry but what do you want to know ? :*)

You feel you/your love/the relationship has gone unrecognized by him?

You should be the "one" for him? But he doesn't see it?

Is it your hurt...

You assume this your case is generalizable to the whole population of men which is not the case. There are plenty of men who recognize what they are dealing with and how to treat them.

Maybe he...

+2 for DeleteAndBan haha

If you were a guy kirai , I would tell you to grow a pair and tell him to hit the road.

You're only dating and he already messed that up, how many warning signs do you want?

Very true. And let's be honest, you don't care cause its not your problem anymore.

She probably expected some big drama circus in which you try to win her back and she has to choose, just like in...

Congratulations! You are one of very few people who are dumped and manage to get back.

Unfortunately in the process you gave away all and every "power" you had. Hope you Keep us updated on your...

4 years in a long distance relationship is amazing to say the least.

Once you find a girlfriend closer to home, and (again) experience the benefits of having a "normal" relationship you will see...

Yes she is a hipocrit and you should do whatever the... you want.

Just cause she had to crawl back to an ex instead of someone new like you did, doesn't mean she can keep you from having a good...

Maybe she left you because she is not a lesbian and you are a huge drama-queen.

Didn't you notice this before he married you ?

Or is Marriage now his safetyline since it makes it harder for you to leave and will make it easier for him to just do what he wants.

I agree...

Fixing up your lovelife would be a good start!


Besides, every woman nowadays has kissed another woman, maybe she's just catching up. As long as its not a structurala thing... I wouldn't worry.....

Your closest and best friend would normally tell this person to get lost, since he's your closest and best friend...

Maybe your ex taking your friends is a good thing to find out who your real...

Believe it or not, this is probably the best thing that will ever happen to you! (in the long run)

p.s. truefaith your post made me laugh.kudo's for your involvement. :D

It's difficult since you will have to trust her that she wants you back for you and not just cause all of a sudden she is just very lonely and needs someone, anyone. Always difficult when they break...

Unfortunately from my own experience I can say that you should run away as fast as you possibly can.

Love is never determined by who you pick

This reminds of fight club, you like visiting support groups ?

Why do you need to be there for her? She blocked you from supporting her as a boyfriend...

From my point of view you would be like an emotional sponge sucking up all these negative emotions,...

Here are some basic rules. Take what you think applies and leave the rest. (Just to be sure: I did not make these rules) Also, some rules apply to some degree depending on situational differences, so...

Probably not what you want to hear but this is the worst plan ever. You will regret sending it, as it clearly shows how bothered you really are by this whole situation. Just a summary:

1) you...

"No woman, No cry"

This quite much sums it up.

p.s. I know it does not officially mean, if I don't have a women there's no pain, but in many cases,as evident from the existence of this...

I have a hard time even imagining this whole situation.

Me and my friend would have dumped her as soon as anything even close to this would happen, and have a good night out with only the guys.
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Its so obvious. He just wants to know that you still want him.

He's like a hunter chasing prey that he knows is just about to give in. The moment you actually do give in, the hunt is over again...

Exactly my point, most people of course realise that waking up with a girl in the house is a very provocative thing to do! He probably knew it was going to lead to a fight but subconciously he wants...

So this is what they mean when they say marriage is like a prison! (im never getting married!)

I sympathize with you, hope he does his best to convince you that it was nothing.

Seems a bit...

I am in a similar situation as you, trying to decide if I can be friends with my ex (she really wants to, says she is lonely etc.)

I am curious as to how you will handle this situation.

In my...

Sure she misses you, but this is not at all related to wanting to be with you in a relationship again. These two are not always related.

The reason why she still talks to you after what you did...

"Then randomly one day she sent me a text saying she didn't want us to talk any more"

"I ring her except one of the guys she was seeing answers instead and tells me that she no longer wants to...