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  1. Nope, no diddling plans at all! Just wondering...

    Nope, no diddling plans at all! Just wondering what others thought. Some people say innocent contact with the ex is fine as long as you keep it at a distance and you know both parties would keep it...
  2. Question: Is he abusive?

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    This is not normal behavior to me. He even...

    This is not normal behavior to me. He even indirectly threatened you. He has anger management issues. There may be one day in the future where he does "lose it" on you. Does he get into physical...
  3. Yes, she does. I think it is innocent nostalgia...

    Yes, she does. I think it is innocent nostalgia because she also recently reached out to some other people from those college days. Seems like she is remembering that time fondly and trying to...
  4. My feelings are pretty neutral. I guess I am a...

    My feelings are pretty neutral. I guess I am a little curious since it has been awhile, but that's about it. I don't hold any negative feelings or anything. My spouse doesn't know about her. We...
  5. What's the proper etiquette when dealing with exes?

    Just recently, my ex from over 20 years ago got my e-mail from a mutual acquaintance and e-mailed me out of the blue to say hi and see how I was doing. It caught me off guard since it has been about...
  6. I've been in this relationship for 3 weeks now. ...

    I've been in this relationship for 3 weeks now.

    You're right. I would not feel comfortable if my girlfriend decided to still hang out at all with someone she used to fool around with. I'll have...
  7. Hi Tal, Thanks for the reply. Just to be clear,...

    Hi Tal,
    Thanks for the reply. Just to be clear, I had no intention ever hook up with my friend again while in this exclusive relationship. I was just wondering if it was wrong that I ignore my...
  8. Entering a new relationship... what to do with a current 'friend'..

    Hello folks,
    I have entered a pretty serious new relationship. We are committed to each other and "exclusive", which is what we both want. Prior to this relationship, I had known this girl who I...
  9. Comment on joypulv's post

    I like to eat two egg mcmuffins (300 calories each) which comes out to 600 calories. It satisfies me so well that I just eat healthy snacks for lunch (300 calorie health shake) and dinner (400...
  10. Yeah I agree that the high cholesterol, sodium...

    Yeah I agree that the high cholesterol, sodium and sat. fats cannot be good. But The calorie difference between my two eating styles are quite large... I mean I did the unhealthy breakfast and ate...
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    No, not really. And as both of you get older, a 5...

    No, not really. And as both of you get older, a 5 year difference will mean very little.

    Welcome back to the site! Actually this is my first visit in quite some time too. I actually was posting...
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    Been there, done that. My last ex said the same...

    Been there, done that. My last ex said the same thing. We were so serious that we were looking at a house to buy together. Then it all fell apart. I didn't start healing until I finally stuck with No...
  13. Healthy meals but more calories or unhealthy meals but less overall calories?

    What is better in terms of losing weight... Eating a meal high in fat and sodium but lower calories OR eating a healthier meal lower in fat and sodium but more calories?

    Basically I have noticed...
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    Hey it happens. I'd wager that most of us who...

    Hey it happens. I'd wager that most of us who have gone through this have had many slip ups and regressions. I know I have. Eventually you'll get it. Bookmark your post and next time you feel ready...
  15. What you need to do is to stop caring about what...

    What you need to do is to stop caring about what she needs to do. As long as you continue to obsess over her life, you will never truly move on
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    Yeah... it would.

    Yeah... it would.
  17. Best just to let it completely go. That means not...

    Best just to let it completely go. That means not giving a crap what goes on in her life. Reveling in her downfall is not letting go. Best to try to cut out any information you get about her life....
  18. It means that she had a change of heart. This...

    It means that she had a change of heart. This happens a lot. Especially with emotional people (like your ex). If it didn't happen often, then we wouldn't see so many divorces, would we? Your...
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    Yes This will only aggravate her and make...

    Yes



    This will only aggravate her and make her feel like you are not giving her the break she requested.

    That said, I think it is fair if say after a sizable amount of time has passed with...
  20. Question: Bachelor party

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    Having been to a few bachelor parties, I will...

    Having been to a few bachelor parties, I will admit that lap dances, including touching and such, is not that uncommon an event. I also know that at some stagette parties, touching the male dancers...
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    Is the problem the lies or the fact that she had...

    Is the problem the lies or the fact that she had sex with someone else? Looking at the title, I'll assume you are asking about the latter. In my opinion she didn't do anything wrong since the...
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    I know it's hard but you must stick with NC. I...

    I know it's hard but you must stick with NC. I only prolonged the agony when I kept staying in touch with my ex-gf just tying to be friends even though deep down it was to try to keep the flame...
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    If this one sentence was not there, I'd tell you...

    If this one sentence was not there, I'd tell you that it sounds like she is interested and to go for it. But unfortunately it is. So until there is an update in her relationship status (no longer has...
  24. What bothers you? The fact that he had...

    What bothers you? The fact that he had unprotected sex or the fact that he had sex with others while you were apart?
  25. Question: He won't have sex.

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    How old is he? As I get older, I've noticed that...

    How old is he? As I get older, I've noticed that I have a harder time maintaining an erection, hence I stayed away from sex a bit. It's not from any lack of desire. I visited a doctor and he...
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    Why dude? WHY? WHY?? Not only did you look at...

    Why dude? WHY? WHY??

    Not only did you look at her profile, you actually went the extra mile to look (by using someone else' login) so you have no excuse of "accidentally" checking her profile.
    ...
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    She's moved on. You need to do the same. Stop...

    She's moved on. You need to do the same. Stop trying to win her back. It's tough that you have to work with her, making NC very tough. As for it being awkward, since both of you know the reason for...
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    Next step? Start NC again and this time don't...

    Next step? Start NC again and this time don't break it. Let her sort things out on her own. If she decides she wants back in, let her contact you and you can decide what you want to do if it ever...
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    I don't think so. You mentioned yourself earlier:...

    I don't think so. You mentioned yourself earlier:



    If that's the case than same goes with a text.

    It sounds instead like you want to see if you can repair the relationship.
  30. Question: Bigdee's story

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    Wow! Interesting to see all my threads merged...

    Wow! Interesting to see all my threads merged into one... 15 pages! :-P
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    Tando - hang in there man!! Things WILL get...

    Tando - hang in there man!! Things WILL get better... but only if you stick to NC! Day one of my healing started with the first day I stuck to NC:
    ...
  32. Question: Bigdee's story

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    Yup. Even if I think I'm done with it, who knows...

    Yup. Even if I think I'm done with it, who knows what curiosity will stir up?

    Again thanks to all.
  33. Question: Bigdee's story

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    Everyone, thanks for all the kind words! NC is...

    Everyone, thanks for all the kind words!

    NC is something that we all learn the minute we join the board but it is so incredibly hard to follow despite all the advice.. I hope my story helps people...
  34. Question: Bigdee's story

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    Yeah I doubt I'll follow up. It was just a little...

    Yeah I doubt I'll follow up. It was just a little weird to see that change in her name.
  35. Question: Bigdee's story

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    Update: What helped me move on with my life.

    Hello all,
    It's been over a year since I got dumped by my ex-gf. I wanted to give an update on the forum that helped me get through those difficult first months. First off I'd like to say Thank You!...
  36. Question: Bigdee's story

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    I'm a little curious about my ex.

    Hello all! It's been awhile since I've visited the site... this is actually good news for me because this indicated that I've mostly moved on with my ex. I think about her occasionally but it hardly...
  37. If you have an issue with what he did in the...

    If you have an issue with what he did in the past, that is something you need to deal with... because he has. He was upfront and honest about it. If that is a deal breaker for you, then let him know...
  38. Loren - not all men immediately rebound so easily...

    Loren - not all men immediately rebound so easily as you say. Spend some time reading the posts on this board and you'll see many posts by guys devastated by being dumped by their girlfriends and...
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    Jon 1. I's say both. She wants to run away...

    Jon

    1. I's say both. She wants to run away from her pain or anxiety by separating from you.
    2. I think she needs to figure out this out on her own. But ask yourself if you want to deal with her...
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    If she has followed good advice, then yes....

    If she has followed good advice, then yes. Because the advice we'd be giving her if she was on this board would be to completely move on.

    Sorry to be harsh but you played with her head and heart...
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    Hang in there! It was my ex's birthday a few...

    Hang in there! It was my ex's birthday a few weeks ago. Had to resist the itch... actually your reply to my post back then helped me resist!

    Anyway its tough but keep it up!
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    Complete agree with jjwoodhull. You were upfront...

    Complete agree with jjwoodhull. You were upfront and honest about yourself. That's better than the majority of people out there. If he has issues with your past, that is his problem. Either he is...
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    Talk to who? Your ex? If so, that is a bad idea.

    Talk to who? Your ex? If so, that is a bad idea.
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    BrewCrew - I know exactly how you feel. Because I...

    BrewCrew - I know exactly how you feel. Because I was thinking the same thing. Check this out:
    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/want-write-letter-ex-send-her-246366.html

    The advice I...
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    Good to hear.

    Good to hear.
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    The key to drop the thoughts is to pick up...

    The key to drop the thoughts is to pick up something else that will occupy them. And it's got to be something you really enjoy, but just never got around to doing. Doing something for the sake of...
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    Hang in there buddy! I'm rooting for you because...

    Hang in there buddy! I'm rooting for you because I know exactly how you feel. Just when I think I'm over it, all of a sudden I start thinking about my ex and start getting all worked up. The good...
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    As someone else already mentioned, contacting...

    As someone else already mentioned, contacting people via social networking sites is quite common these days. In fact, that is part of the reason why sites like Facebook exists!
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    If you date this boy with him knowing your real...

    If you date this boy with him knowing your real age and things go too far and word gets out somehow that you slept with him, he can get in very very serious trouble that will severely wreck his...
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    Wow, I just read some of your previous posts. ...

    Wow, I just read some of your previous posts.

    Dude... you need help. Professional help. At the very least you need to express all the feelings you have told us with your close friends and family...
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