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I can entirely understand you're feelings of lacking intimacy. If he's watching porn to get aroused and then having sex with you from a position where he's behind you, is there ever a point where...

How long have you been engaged? Was he experiencing sexual dysfunction (when with you) before he decided to stop having sex?

If you two are never having sex and he really did watch 20 videos in three days, then it does sound like maybe something is wrong. But keep in mind a few things...

You can't really know if he...

His coworker makes a great point. Would you believe that he had sex with someone else? I would. Because, based on your description of his behavior, I definitely don't think that boundary exists...

I would not want to be entangled with someone who reacts to relationship troubles by attempting suicide. What if you had killed yourself? Did you even consider that he might carry that guilt for...

I wouldn't say that this was a good response - "I told him there was something mentally wrong with him" - and I do think angeltri has some issues with porn that taint her perspective - "first of all...

Having a conversation like this when you're intoxicated will not necessarily have the best results. Maybe you should try speaking about the lack of sex (not the porn) again and this time be sober.
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Hmmm... probably not, though I would pay to see it attempted. But, Viagra? Cialis? A pump? Those aids are more or less akin to what lube is for women - when the artifacts of arousal are lacking,...

But it's quite uncomfortable, even painful if you just 'spread your legs' without any buildup. Probably like getting a handjob with sandpaper, if you can really call that a sexual act.

If you have a 28 day cycle, you should ovulate 2 weeks after the first day of your period. It sounds like you had sex right when you should have been ovulating so you might very well be pregnant. ...

There is so much going on here and it's somewhat difficult to understand, but...



Was this something you knew about and are you okay with it? Has he been doing this for long or is it new?

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A few days before your period should place you outside your fertility window but it can happen. If you're now experiencing what seems like a normal period, then that's probably what it is. Have you...

If you have a specific question, you should post it. If you need pretty much all of the information, you're asking for a lot from us.

If you can't talk to your mom and they haven't shown 'the...

It would be hard to find the right time to tell someone about this. Personally, I think I might have mentioned it a sooner, even if it did seem like I was jumping the gun a bit. But, I don't think...

Have you asked him why he's interested in blow jobs but not in sex? Is he just too tired perhaps? Or lazy?



If you've talked about it (calmly and without accusation) many times and you've...

So, because the sex has dropped off for a very short amount of time, you're getting all worked up and looking for underlying problems? Maybe he's been more busy and more tired this month. If you've...

You seem to be consistently and over the long term unhappy. Do you feel like you are always unhappy in this relationship?

If this is true, how have you never noticed it before? The fact that he likes doing it when you're around, likes to present himself one way and act another, and has downloaded/watched more of it...

No, he is not trustworthy. This should no longer be a question for you as he has already lied.

He cheated, or attempted to cheat, on you giving you just cause to break up. Then after the break,...

I am in agreement with dontknownuthin about dealbreakers - it was a case I had unsuccessfully tried to make before. People can encounter differences that can't be overcome. When such issues come...

But if a person did lie, then calling him/her a liar is calling him/her what he/she is. It's different than a false accusation. And, in this case, regardless of why he lied, he did lie.
(ha, I...

Agreed, but I wasn't talking about the gratification to be had by the consumer. I was talking about the ethics associated with the production of it. As a consumer of literature, you don't have to...

I have read sex scenes in books that I found arousing. I have read some examples of erotic literature, and it has never appealed to me. Usually my trouble with it is that the writing is frequently...

But there are factors associated with porn that are not associated with erotic literature - such as real people being the source of the entertainment and that some of those people are being treated...

I don't think there's an argument here to relinquish everything that arouses a person outside of their partner, just porn. And the argument to give it up, at least as far as dontknownuthin seemed to...

"My boyfriend of one year has been telling me throughout our entire relationship that he doesn't watch porn and he knows I'm not okay with him watching it."

It is because you are not okay with it...

I am in agreement with Cat about him pulling the photos out with you right there. It seems more than a little disrespectful to me. I further agree that any double standards need to be addressed...

Agreed, stop pushing him. The more you pressure him, the more he's going to think it's an issue for you and the more inclined he'll be to lie. He's only lying because he thinks the truth will be...

"I'm just curious to know what he watched as I thought we told each other everything. If he knows me at all he would know I don't care one bit if he watched extreme fetishes or whatever. I'd love to...

"We have a child together its been rocky between us the whole relationship for for one reason or another."

If you're fighting about everything, all of the time, then you're just not compatible.
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She has completely changed her life to be with this man and the changes she made sound like they required some major decisions/sacrifices. There's nothing you can do.

She is not 'your'...

The fact that this one encounter has you writing strangers online for advice suggests that you are having trouble acknowledging that the relationship is over. When you have truly grasped that the...

I dated a guy briefly (as in a couple of months like your relationship) and he was convinced he loved me. AFTER we stopped seeing each other, he sent me love letters and emails almost daily. He...

"She was terse, still likes me but doesn't think we should see each other yet, stops texting
Next day I apologize for the weirdness and thank her for listening and talking, but she doesn't respond...

"I mean I understand it, but I don't understand why women just have to accept it."

They don't have to accept it. You're just left with limited options. If you can accept it, you can try to find...

"we both still live with our parents"

This would kill my libido and could definitely play a role. Do you have sex in your parents' houses or do you have to sneak off somewhere else? Such...

How you act in a relationship, perceive yourselves and the situation, and feel about the different aspects is completely different as an adult versus as a teenager - which you were when you began...

So... you feel disappointed because you didn't get to 'destroy' her? What?

I have been cheated on before. It was heartbreaking and difficult to let go of all of my feelings for the other person and dreams about our future, but I am so glad I did it now. I would not have...

"God I am sick and tired of all this."

And at this point, you should just be done with it.

If you don't have friends, make some. It's intimidating to think about but it's really not so...

If another guy asks her and she wants to know what you think, tell her you were hoping to go with her. She will be the one making the decision. You just have to make your intentions known. Chuck...

I posted the following in another thread and it seemed to be helpful to a few. I hope maybe it can give you some perspective.

I recently heard about a study that was conducted across many...

Your breasts can become swollen and your nipples sore in the days before your period and in the days after ovulation. These changes are caused by normal fluctuations in your hormone levels.

If...

How long has it been since you first had sex? If this is still only the 4th time you've had sex, I would think that it's possible your hymen did rip or even just the walls of your vagina.

How...

"How would you like as a man for your women to handle it?"

I am a woman, not a man, but I can tell you he probably doesn't want you to 'handle it' at all. My guess is he doesn't want you to...

I think everybody has self-esteem issues that are largely created and exacerbated by idealistic imagery of people in all media (including porn). I know he finds those women particularly sexually...

Either way, does this seem like something you should expect good results from when a person was pressured into doing it?

I have had many dreams about being dead and about fighting for my life or the lives of my family. Generally, I dream about being dead when there has been a death of someone close to me or when I...

What's your motivation for asking them to move in? The first I was kind of pressured into moving her in, the second it seed like the right thing to do, plus she was going to go to school 10 min away...

What's your motivation for asking them to move in?
When they do invite them to move in, how do you picture things going? What expectations do you have?