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  1. You should be your first priority.So-why be the...

    You should be your first priority.So-why be the option? Take care of you,and let her take care of herself. Tough love but we don't have to carry anyone else.
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    It's about you now,not her. We all get our hearts...

    It's about you now,not her. We all get our hearts broken at some point in time and we all pick ourselves up and ''get our stuff together'',having worked through the bad stuff.
    Being friends with...
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    You,it seems,are being more or less told to abide...

    You,it seems,are being more or less told to abide by somebody else's rules, never a good thing.
    Me,I wouldn't.
    Take charge of your own life and do what you feel is right for you.
  4. Question: Confused?

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    He was never yours to ''lose'';he's a married man...

    He was never yours to ''lose'';he's a married man cheating on his wife-carcrash!

    I think you need to take some serious time out from relationships and start strengthening yourself confidence and...
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    You need to ask her as she is the only one who...

    You need to ask her as she is the only one who knows.
  6. She's right when she says she's messed up-as she...

    She's right when she says she's messed up-as she never healed from her breakup.
    Healing is a process which takes time.

    Protect your heart and step away from this.
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    Lana you need to post your own thread this one is...

    Lana you need to post your own thread this one is from 2009.
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    I think you realize that this is over and he has...

    I think you realize that this is over and he has moved on with his life.
    You need to let this go so that you can start healing and create a new,happy life for yourself.

    Read the stickies about...
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    He broke up with you so ,no,you don't . Focus on...

    He broke up with you so ,no,you don't .
    Focus on you now,heal and move on.
    Go no contact-read the stickies.
  10. Question: Confused?

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    We do this ''us humans''- we tend to repeat...

    We do this ''us humans''- we tend to repeat patterns until we've worked on ourselves so that we are able to love ourselves and thus attract a better partner.

    Looking in from the outside I'd say...
  11. Question: Confused?

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    You find out by asking him. The clues are all...

    You find out by asking him.
    The clues are all there.
    This reminds me of your previous situation...

    Don't go there.
  12. I think this thread should be merged with your...

    I think this thread should be merged with your previous one.
    Also,as you're no longer together what she does and who she does it with is irrelevant.

    No need to inform her current love interest...
  13. Confused=''I want to do my thing but I'll keep...

    Confused=''I want to do my thing but I'll keep you as a back up plan''-as long as you let me.

    Don't let her.

    Go no contact-read the stickies-and start rebuilding your life.

    Break ups are...
  14. Whatever this was it is no more. He broke up...

    Whatever this was it is no more.
    He broke up with you-be realistic and work on healing and moving on.
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    You move on because that's what we do-he wasn't...

    You move on because that's what we do-he wasn't who you thought he was or who he pretended to be-he was rebounding and using you.

    You dodged a bullet-grieve,heal and chalk it up to experience.
  16. His behaviour is not acceptable. Leave...

    His behaviour is not acceptable.

    Leave him,this is serious abuse and he won't change.

    Time to take care of you and get counseling.
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    Homegirl is right-he is a jealous controlfreak. ...

    Homegirl is right-he is a jealous controlfreak.

    You should never have to change for another person.

    I doubt he'll change.

    Tough as this is you should seriously consider getting out of this.
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    How old are you? Is this your first boyfriend?...

    How old are you?
    Is this your first boyfriend?
    I would talk to him and ask him how he feels;if his feelings have changed it'd be better to know now rather than later.
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    She doesn't want a relationship ''right now'' so...

    She doesn't want a relationship ''right now'' so respect that and move on.
    You can't force feelings.
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    Why open a potential can of worms? Let it be-the...

    Why open a potential can of worms?
    Let it be-the past is best left in the past.
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    I agree with Alty- and where there are trust...

    I agree with Alty- and where there are trust issues ( I can see why... )you need to have an honest conversation about these.

    Brushing ''stuff'' under the carpet is never a good idea.
  22. Old post-2009;hopefully it's sorted now...

    Old post-2009;hopefully it's sorted now...
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    Having a relationship should be a bonus,not a...

    Having a relationship should be a bonus,not a ''must have'' to ''blot out'' loneliness.

    Build a relationship with yourself first,learn to love and appreciate yourself-and be happy on your own-then...
  24. Personally,I think you've dodged a bullet. Let...

    Personally,I think you've dodged a bullet.

    Let her have her ''break''(break up in my book) and get your own life back on track,one day at the time.

    You did the right thing when you erased and...
  25. Hey,great!! Take good care of you!

    Hey,great!!

    Take good care of you!
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    Get help sorting out your drink problem-AA and...

    Get help sorting out your drink problem-AA and therapy.
    Once you're back on track I think you'll find this ''crush'' will have lost its attraction.
  27. Who did he assault? I would advice you to stay...

    Who did he assault?
    I would advice you to stay well clear of this guy;he's in prison for a reason.

    Let it go and take care of yourself.
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    Emotionally I would feel ''iffy'' to-and let this...

    Emotionally I would feel ''iffy'' to-and let this go.
  29. Question: I got played

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    You move on by saying no thanks when/if he calls...

    You move on by saying no thanks when/if he calls you again.

    He's telling you ''it's just sex'' so find the self respect to go no contact and detox from this destructive situation.

    Go cold...
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    It's not about what he wants,needs etc. It's...

    It's not about what he wants,needs etc.
    It's about what you do to get why o you are life back on track.

    No contact and stick to it.
  31. This guy is an addict;addicts have relationships...

    This guy is an addict;addicts have relationships with the substance of their choice,not with people.

    Only he can sort out his problems;we can never ''save'' another person so leave this alone,heal...
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    Good luck and take good care of yourself.

    Good luck and take good care of yourself.
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    Why even think about a repeat of a bad ''film''?...

    Why even think about a repeat of a bad ''film''?
    He's in your past-leave him there.
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    Going out with friends and having a good time is...

    Going out with friends and having a good time is fine-going out with a guy on a date is too soon,even if it's ''just drinks''.

    You need to heal before you do this and it's only been a little over...
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    You leave it well alone;there's no need to tell...

    You leave it well alone;there's no need to tell him he's a weirdo etc.
    Too many red flags-you're well rid of him.

    Heal,move on and eventually you'll find someone normal.
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    Find a therapist-I agree you need professional...

    Find a therapist-I agree you need professional help to sort this out.
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    Red flag alert! Time to walk;you do not need...

    Red flag alert!
    Time to walk;you do not need this;it's abuse.
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    You move on for your own sake-to get your life...

    You move on for your own sake-to get your life back on track.
    Whatever she does is of no importance.
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    How old are you? Breaking up rather than...

    How old are you?

    Breaking up rather than talking and solving problems is a big no-no;as is this kind of controlling behaviour.

    Get some serious communication going;the way things are going this...
  40. You get a life is what you do,and leave her to...

    You get a life is what you do,and leave her to lead hers.

    I'm guessing some months down the line you won't be wanting a relationship with this young lady...
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    Let it go, and get your sanity back. That's what...

    Let it go, and get your sanity back. That's what you should do!
    This is what Talaniman said a week ago-time to listen...

    Now stick with your decision!
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    The past is the past-take every day as it comes...

    The past is the past-take every day as it comes and don't rush things.
    Live life, don't over analyze it.
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    You have to run your social life by him? This...

    You have to run your social life by him?
    This is 2012,not 1950.

    Leave him to sulk;personally I think you can do a lot better than a petulant child who comes across as a control freak.
  44. Closure is what you give yourself by doing your...

    Closure is what you give yourself by doing your own thing and healing.

    If you have to see him at school,polite but distant is the way to go.
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    Whatever her reasons,keep ignoring her-NC 100...

    Whatever her reasons,keep ignoring her-NC 100 %-it's for your healing,so that you can move on.

    Leave her to her mind games and go do your own thing.
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    Seize the day? I would sort out my marriage...

    Seize the day?

    I would sort out my marriage if I were you-whichever way that goes,rather than playing with fire with a woman who has severe health problems.
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    Where there other issues! Did you ever ask him...

    Where there other issues!

    Did you ever ask him why he does this?

    Some more details would be helpful.
  48. He's a lying,cheating j^^k! No...

    He's a lying,cheating j^^k!
    No Contact,whatsoever with either of them;forever!

    Respect yourself and leave this in the past.
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    Stay away from both of them,heal from the break...

    Stay away from both of them,heal from the break up and take care of you.

    Once you're back on track,find a man without baggage.

    Take care.
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    NC works-when you stick to it. What happened...

    NC works-when you stick to it.

    What happened with ''the new guy''?
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