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No refreshed the page after a few hours thinking I was on my own problem thread and replied wrongly.
Sorry for any confusion.

What makes you say that?

My mistake thought this was a reply to one of my posts.. I disagree with Nohelp4u you need to try and move on the best you can I don't think you should cling onto any...

She's playing with you and that's the bottom line!



If she's tempted by other guys aren't you glad that you know now? Instead of wasting more time with a girl who clearly isn't mature enough...

I know its hard but you really just need to take a step back and take stock of what is actually going on. Playing games with someone in order to try and get them back never works and even if it did...

Good hold your head up high and move forwards if I were you I wouldn't look back either - even if he does change his mind.

Best of luck :)

He cheated and you're doing the chasing?
Hmm.. step out of your situation and look at it from an outsiders point of view
It doesn't look good does it?

Just because there might still be something there doesn't mean that you guys should be together. This person is highly unlikely to be your life partner. You must take the first steps in moving on and...

The constant on/off aspect of your relationship suggests that he's seeing what you guys had for what it is. He then tells you to stop kidding yourself - I don't think NC is going to
Make him change...

If you don't want to come across as a jerk then let her know that your planning on going down the no contact route, I think this is the best way forward. You'll both have the time and space needed to...

To have an image of her imprinted on your mind pretty much 24/7? Its not like she's all I think about, ill be getting on with things.. and even sometimes having fun! But that subtle little flash of...

Congrats on 25 days no contact!

Hiss loss?

Good.. you guys are avoiding all the unnecessary drama.

Doubtful

Your working your way towards it - just stick to NC

I wasn't suggesting that you were. Good luck anyway, I hope your situation improves.

Look this is just my own opinion. No one can give you the right answer apart from him. He said he wasn't looking for a relationship? Meaning he's pursuing you for sex right? Right OK so he's paid you...

He enjoyed the pictures you sent him and appreciated them but maybe your less of a challenge for him now? That doesn't sound so shocking to me.

Why do you care so much? You're not obligated to each other in the slightest. Don't over analyze his behavior and get on with things.

Thanks guys

That's the thing.. I'm no where near saying all that I need. I haven't really said anything since all of this kicked off for fear of making things worse. I guess its just got to the point where its...

Im guessing don't get so lazy in the future? That might help. Thanks to my own idleness I've learnt that respect is key!

Looks like she's changed her number... ouch
That's got me pretty bummed, but at least now I know where I stand.

She needs space, do not overwhelm her. Changes don't happen over night.. you both have to step back and you need to work on yourself for you! Not for her. Over time if she cares to notice the change...

Will do. Thanks for all your advice

Thanks for your honesty, but that last bit of hope needs to die just like my dignity has before I can truly say I gave it my all.

1. are you in college? Im at University
2. going to college? -
3. have a career? Aiming towards one
4. have goals? What? To be happy
5. how much pot do you smoke? To be honest id say a couple of...

Dead in the water right?

Whenever we speak her tone is angry.. she's either angry or ignoring me. Over the past month I haven't made any real effort to talk to her - I have been too worn down. I went on a trip the other week...

Ash123 I will tell her the truth but as liz28 has said flowers just won't work here.
I know I'm sending out mixed signals with me trying to get my stuff back.. but really I'm just trying to get my...

Ill try the flowers.. I have nothing more to lose.
The situation was crazy. But my ex and I had 4 good years together before and I just believe in her.

A fresh start with her is all I want.

The thing is this girl is one nasty piece of work.. turns out she wasn't really pregnant in the first place.The story is very detailed.. the girl just has too many issues and I fell for her games.

Isn't that a bit too easy?

Nah I can't blame her at all.. I know it doesn't look good. I'd be exactly the same to her if she did something like that.
So I should just continue to leave her to it?

Your honesty is appreciated, there's just this feeling inside telling me not to give up on her.. I'm sure this will fade.. well I hope so anyway.



It's a bit of a long story.. a friend of ours...

You've got that right :(



As talaniman pointed out its already been a little while.. do you not think enough time has already passed?

Any advice guys?

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Good luck

I can't imagine why his ex would go and stay at his house.. no matter how close her connection is with his family. Something smells dodgey, but that's just my opinion.
Communication is key within a...

He saw you whilst he was seeing someone else - that's a big sign right there. He went behind her back couldn't he do the same to you?

If you do trust him well what do you have to be worried and...

I didn't actually cheat but I hate to admit the intention was there (which is just as bad I know) My ex actually thinks it happened. We've been apart a little over 2 months. Contact is occasional....

Save yourself the heartache.. don't meet her she won't have any news for you that you'll want to hear. There's nothing to talk about, don't let her string you along. Tell her you've made other plans...

Thanks for the input tolerance the thought never crossed my mind.. I don't think I could let it get that far though. I thought I'd just check to see if there was any mystical reasoning behind why a...

She's highly annoying, that's what she is.

Thing is there's never going to be a good time and id just rather get it over and done with.

No let him deal with his fathers death. Don't force your issues on him! Just be there for him at this very important time.

Out with the old, in with the new. Id bin it all.

No the way I see it now - I have my friends she has hers. We no longer have any mutual friends. I don't want my mom clearing up after me. Im sure ill get my stuff back eventually, I'll just wait it...

But that probably is the reason, the girl does not want to see or speak to me. That's perfectly clear.
It's a shame its stooped down to this level.. ill try and leave it for a bit longer & then...

Lovely.. how immature.
Any ideas on how I should get it back? I can't go back to her house without a scene being made.

She broke it off with me because she thinks I played away.

Without going into too much detail, my ex and I broke up 2 months ago (we were together for almost 4 years). I went and returned her stuff a few days after the break up with the intention of picking...

I know bugging a girl is the wrong thing to do, but she may have taken this as you having a guilty conscience?
Remember trust is key! From my experience if it starts of badly, it'll end even worse....

He either wants you or he doesn't and from what I've read id go for the latter. Don't play games with him hoping to gain his affection, it won't work like that. Have it out with him, let him know...