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Love Addiction Part II: Recovery from Love and Sex Addiction
By Robert Weiss, LCSW, CAS

Much of the love addiction literature speaks to the love addicts' inability to live their lives without a...

Love Addiction Part I: The Problem
By Robert Weiss, LCSW, CAS


Healthy romantic love is a unique experience which can encourage bonding, intimacy and the opportunity to play and explore with...

In my humble opinion, if you don't like the kinds of games that 19 yr olds like to play, then maybe you don't like dating 19 yr olds? See here's the thing with age. "Age is just a number" and all...

And remember communication comprises body language, tonality, words, breathing, etc... being loud is kind of like begging to be heard in my opinion.

Keep up your therapy man, this board is not going to provide you with the appropriate amount of insight regarding a very complicated scenario such as this one...

I certainly would not tolerate any of this, your letting her run all over you... really it comes down to respect, and for whatever reason (only you know) she doesn't seem to respect you.

Being loud generally is a sign that you are desperate to be heard... men typically do not like it when girls try really hard to get attention, which is usually the case if a girl is "loud." These...

I think that the balls in your court, you just having trouble seeing that because you're the one engaged in this situation... Listen to all of the different opinions given on this board, for the most...

I gave bad advice on this one, I take responsibility for it.

Don't you just love those good'ol sayings we all live bye and use as rules... "the grass is always greener," being one of them... Truth is, I do subscribe to CANI, constant and never-ending...

I knew I could count on you nightalone... hehe, thanks for the female perspective.

Well its been a few weeks now, and certain emotions are coming to the surface. I am happier at work, meaning I am feel more capable of focusing on it... which takes a lot of pressure off me. Nights...

Dude relax, you've already figured out 99% of what most men don't understand about women... now all you have to do is figure out that 1%... my advice is join a sports team, make some guy friends... ...

dude... whoa there. What I find almost comical about your post is, you seem to understand her games, haha, probably better than she does... whats strange is your asking our (the board) opinion of...

^ That is actually excellent advice. Essentially what your saying is, enjoy life, be yourself, do your thing, and love finds you.:o good talk.

Yah that's cute. I've been in a fair amount of 2 yr relationships so I have experience with crazy girls and mellow girls... I'd like to find a balance, but wouldn't we all?

For certain, she's very viable... is it dillusional to think that there are a lot of "viable" women out there? Good points, thank you.

^I agree, kissing his brother probably sealed the deal. Based on the limited amount of info given, I'd say your best bet is to give him a few weeks of no contact and then try to sincerely apoligize...

Oh OK, thanks skell... and while I'm posting in here I might as well add, if the person is making the safety factor dissapaite that all of you have so clearly created, I would certainly not tolerate...

Wait, are you a moderator or administrator? Im confused.

In my honest opinion, if you two were both ready for a relationship you would be ready, it doesn't sound like you guys are ready. By that I mean you have your own issues to work through before you...

Could you be more specific? Opposed to "whats my next move?"

"And she would never let me go with her on those occasions, and she never liked going to "her bar" when she was with me."

Well I obviously don't know all the in's and out's of your relationship... you two certainly need some time apart though. Don't over think this, your boundaries were crossed, you feel violated, that...

Deep Breaths first of all, you should not torment yourself over this, repeat after me, this isn't your fault!

I am sorry, on behalf of men, that many of us are such pigs... and I mean that.
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If your looking for an excuse, any one will do.;)

Move on. Stay in touch as friends, reminisce about the good times (ONLY) laugh, keep things light, don't loose contact (thats the beauty of the internet), YOU NEVER KNOW WHAT THE FUTURE HOLDS, so...

I don't mean to pigeonhole this wonderful young lady but the from what I gather, this is the type of girl who likes to use sex as a form of control. She gives you lots of it at first, and then takes...

To: Jesushelper76
You can't learn more about yourself by reading a book written by another person? Books change people's perspectives don't they? I've learned a great deal about "symptoms" if you...

Try not to think about her any more (hopefully less) than she thinks about you, don't add too much fuel to this because honestly, it sounds to me like that's what she wants... she envies you, wants...

Hi Joe,

Thanks for your advice, I do hope that we can be friends, and by friends I mean only friends, because I don't want to mess with her ability to trust men by playing games with her at this...

Let me ask you this, how was your relationship with yourself before this women came into your life?

And

Have you been investing into your own emotional bank account these past 7 yrs? Sounds...

I am sure she is better off, you are right. I was more concentrated on my needs being met than meeting her needs...

We were together for 1 yr and 3 months.

She wasn't really into anything...

Sounds like codependancy, enabling, and low self-esteem (on her part). Sounds to me like she knew what she was doing from the start, kind of like a plan almost... I'm willing to bet that the way she...

I broke up w. my GF the other day and Im not sure why? What I mean is, nothing was wrong really, we didn't fight, we got along well, physically things were great. I just wasn't content with the...