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Let me tell you from experience that you may not think you can "bare to leave him" but you can. I thought this when I was 18 years old and although my boyfriend at that time was not jealous, he had...

I wanted to just check in with all of those who have helped me a great deal as I had not been on the site for quite some time. I decided to take a break from getting "too much advice" from outside...

More information would be helpful here and I agree your ages would be helpful. It is hard without that information to know how to interpret this. He could want to be your friend or your boyfriend but...

It has been a quite difficult time since I last posted. I realize I made a huge mistake by calling his sister inn law the "c" word and created a dramatic family situation. After speaking to my...

This guy knew when he decided to date you that you were with his friend and he accepted that. Now he is not accepting the fact that you had avery short lived "relationship" with his friend.

I...

To CAT thank you for the Desiderata referance and yes, I believe I actually received it in a card from someone before but reading it again was refreshing. I did contact my therapisy over the weekend...

That is a very BIG lie told early in the relationship and I agree that it seems maybe he has experienced conflict with women so figured he could manipulate you into stop arguing, feeling sorry for...

Hello to everyone that has helped me. PLEASE HELP ME AGAIN!! I am really struggling emotionally right now and I am trying to make a decision needed answers from unbias sources. Please answer only if...

I am sure this is going to be very tough for you because I am guessing this may have been a first serious love for you? Seven years is also a very long time especially in a teen relationship and it...

I know I need a LOT of work on myself and I have every intention on doing that and wish that therapists were more available than 2 times a month and a psychiatrist was more "caring" that just a drug...

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I was unsure if I would have enough room so I wanted to explain my confusing day to get some imput please after my explanation of my dysfuntionality. We went to an...

Alrighty then -anyone else like to whip me like Jesus and watch me bleed before they nail me to the cross until I die? HONESTLY - I am really afraid now to tell any of you the truth of my life...

To clarify, since people on this site twist my words around often, what I said was as she, outsidersviews1, saw the time frame of the conversation becoming long and that became uncomfortable for her...

Thank you for being the sole person who has not been judgemental, arrogant, or nasty in offering real ADVICE which is helpful and also giving me a resource. I have read a book on boundaries before as...

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OK -I am not going to give you a red for 1 reason only - your post was helpful. BUT... MY BROTHER ALMOST DIED SO GO BACK AND READ THE POSTS MISS B/C HE DRANK DRAINO BACK IN...

Actually I don't think women when they say they want a break are "confused about what they want" at all. I think it is a pathetic way of saying, by both men and women, that they are ready to end the...

I would like to know how old you are as well. I must tell you a little secret - I am 36 years old and I have NEVER asked a boy or man out, Why? I think it is unappealling, aggressive, and it makes...

Ten months is a LONG time to not have a period and I would definitely suggest first taking another pregnancy test if you are having sex. Then I would say you need to see a gynecologist via Planned...

Sorry for the misunderstanding. I was a virgin until I was 18 years old so I do totally understand your concerns but unlike you I was not open with my mother about getting an exam because I decided...

I do trust my boyfriend as he ALWAYS says what he is going to do and does so and calls,etc. My concern was the manipulation or persuasion of other guys when they get drunk with the "no women around"...

Just to start I should let ou know he bought me flowers and apologized for saying the mean comments to me (being delusional,crazy). I did say in the text I sent that I did not mind if he went to the...

No offense to your mother but what the heck is wrong with her? You need to see a gynecologist. No, it is not a pleasant experience but is she going to let her young daughter go on without knowing if...

Well, first off I am sorry for your situation. However, when you cheat on a girl generally and in more cases than not if she has any sense of self worth it is something that can be"forgiven" but...

Well, I have been telling him to shut his mouth and then he says I am mean to him. We were together a year and 5 months before we moved in together so I figured we knew each other well enough. We...

No offense and call me super sensitive but I find your advice quite judgemental and as I viewed your answeres to others questions I also saw that as well. You don't know that this friend sends him...

I left a comment and general overall answer for everyone but just to comment I know I try to hard. I think I want some positive feedback. I lost 5 llbs and on my frame you can tell my waist is...

I want to try to answer Cat, Talaniman, and Homegirl 50 so here goes:I know he does not want to be single because I spoke to his friends and they have all said that when he was single all he spoke...

I have to say that this is a real tough one to answer and it sounds like neither one of you know what you want. You should no doubt be afraid of getting hurt but remember that you hurt him and he...

I know we are at odds and we did one couples session at one point to which he concluded, "She agreed with me so this is all you and you need to really fix your way of thinking." Yes, I know that. I...

To Talaniman-Hmmm... I am unsure what you mean. I am definitely oversensitive no doubt however I do feel my boyfriend plays on that weakness. To try to explain, every person I have dated has given me...

It sounds as if his depression may be causing a lack of sex drive and maybe he made a commitment religiously after his mother passed that he would change his behavior or maybe strangely feels guilt...

Yes, I understand that however when I explain this to him he is annoyed and says it is an excuse just as the depression is dramatic and he often says ,"i am really getting tired of it." He knew...

In reply to Cat's questions, my current relationship of a year and a half was "long distance" so to speak as we lived about an hour and a half away from each other. We spoke every day at his lunch...

I told ex-husband that I wanted a divorce in 2/ 2008 while he was in jail for his second DUI. At that time I began chatting with another person much younger and had 2 brief encounters lasting about...

I am actually used to being the "caretaker" of the other person and now I feel very dependent. I had 2 great jobs straight out of college and relocated expecting with my experience that I would have...

When you answered his question with fun I guarantee in his mind that meant a roll in the hay when you both were available because you weren't very specific. You didn't give details to us so did you...

Are you trusting him now? Do you have a reson to not trust him now? Speaking from experience, if a person knows you are going to react badly to a situation they will lie just to avoid a...

I understand that you love him however I highly doubt that even if you accepted him back that you would ever be able to trust him again and you would not feel secure. He lied from the beginning and...

Thank you for explaining and it makes more sense now. I am also feeling that I am not as important as I used to be as we just moved in together a month ago and I relocated, have no job, and feel like...

Losing a family member, especially if the person was very close to them has a significant impact on someone. If you truly love her please make every effort to apologize for the nasty remarks you made...

The whole "time to find herself" and "being great friends" are VERY irritating excuses that annoy me to hear from any male and female. I wish people would just be honest but they won't. Let her go....

Actually at these ages, I think the need for privacy and distancing one's self from parents and or other siblings can be common due to the need to seeking their own identity and mainly, just wanting...

I think a lot of red flags are appearing. The first was her moving out and then her telling her that she was not in love with you as much as she used to be. That is a clear indication of her trying...

This is totally ridiculous behavior and completely immature. It sounds to me like she wants to, as they say,have her cake and eat it too. Regardless of what the guy said, it almost appears that SHE...

I realize that you have been with this person 18 years and have no other frame of reference as I had been there myself -began a relationship at age 18 and divorced painfully at 32 but it should have...

I don't think I am being self absorbed by asking for affection? Seems the more info. I put out on the posts the more sarcasm I get, not from you so to speak but please realize that when emotions are...

Wait a second... that came off the wrong way. He cries for hiws own well being plenty and gets plenty of sympathy. The only reason and ONE and only reason I showed no sympathy to him in that instance...

Yes, this makes complete sense and I will look into the book you suggest. You are right because he told me he feels no matter what he does it never will be enough to make me happy and he is unable to...

Yes, in fact I smiled to myself reading your answer as you must seem to know my type of person well. I do not mean to be spoiled or sensitive yet growing up my mother showed her love by giving me...

Many times we assume that because we are brought up a certain way or certain events are important to us, that they also should be especially important to our significant other. I found out in my...