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I know what you're saying. But I wanted to meet with her just to get some things off my chest I've held a lot in the past year or so... regardless of the outcome. So I wasn't sure to maybe text her...

Thanks for the advice. Harsh, but I'll take it. So my question now is... that being the said. What do I do?

Thanks, but what I don't get is then why has she been contacting me all this time. What does she want? We're not friends. I just don't want this to keep going on that she pops in whenever she feels...

So my ex and I have been broken up for over a year. Over the past year she has contacted me a few times to see how I was and to tell me about some of the important things going on in her life. I...

Yes, give the break, back off, and never contact him again, until he contacts you. And if he wants to get back together and you still want him back. Make sure you understand fully why he wanted the...

How did she find out?

Sorry to hear that Sandstorm. But there's a lot of contradictions... things you should have spotted to NOT "be fooled yet again". I mean she contacted you with the blood test thing because it was a...

Stick to no contact. I'm sure she has plenty of reasons to contact you as well, but she is not for a reason. If she broke up with you, just back off. There needs to be an end. Realize that there...

Sorry to hear that canefan... It wasn't really until I came on this site that I realized what a cliché our situations all are. Mine ended the same as yours. Only I don't know much about her love...

Everyone goes through this (thinking your ex was the greatest thing)... whether it's true or just a reaction to rejection doesn't make a difference. You really have to step back and stop thinking of...

I don't think there's any doubt that that message was directed towards you, but you shouldn't be too hurt by it, because I'm pretty sure it was done out of spite. But really, what are you doing...

Hey Sandstorm,

Geezzzz, that's tough. The problem with those situations is, you wanted her back right, and you probably still do. See the thing is, no matter what she does right now, you're going...

Wow! Thanks wewed for sharing that. You don't hear as many happy ending stories as you do the horror stories. Ironically yours was a bit of a horror story at first, but glad to hear things worked out...

Hey wewed, thanks for the response. Actually, I think you're right on that I have been "more avoiding than dealing". But that's because she pushed me away and it's the only way I know how to deal...

Okay here's the summary... After a 4 year relationship, my ex broke up with me in April of '07, saying she didn't love me no more. Reason being, fights and having a lot on her plate (grad school and...

Don't break it. You've come a long way. I've been no contact (on my part) for 7 months now, after a 4 year relationship where I was told she didn't love me anymore. It's hard bud, but don't let...

I haven't posted here in a while. Truth is, December was a hard month with the holidays. Felt sad and I guess bitter and hurt, maybe that was the reason for the negative attitude Sandstorm. Anyway,...

Thanks Jolienoire, yeah, I know what you mean. I don't know what you went through but either way, whether you hate each other or you were hurt, any contact is going to suck regardless. If I were...

Wow, that's rough Sandstorm. I feel your pain buddy... takes a toll on the emotions. And the friend isn't much of a friend for keeping you in the dark like that.

Just a quick update. I did not...

Hey Sandstorm,

What is she still doing on your IM anyway. Delete her!! Or block her and have some self control. Why does she keeps contacting you to tell you these things?? I think she misses...

I know what you're saying smoothly, but I don't believe the whole "you're ex's for a reason", like it was never meant to be or could never work. I think just over time people let stupid things like...

Hey Sandstorm, I know you're right. But those moments of weakness just creep up on you. I still can't believe it ended like it did. Still hasent fully sunk in yet after six months!! Every day I wake...

Sorry to hear about this Sdjosh, a lot of us were rooting for you here. Mac may come off a little agreesive but there is some truth to what he says... even without the full story. What if you hadn't...

Just wondering what is a long enough amount of time passed before it's appropriate to contact an Ex again, after No Contact? I know the obvious answers are "when you're strong enough" and/or...

If there was a spark in the first place, it's not impossible to happen again. Rare, but I think if the circumstances are right, it could happen again.

I feel exactly the same way.

I think u might be complicating a simple thing here. Put her stuff in a box and mail it. And/or, just text her and say I'm going to be away or out and your stuff is on the porch, come and pick it...

That's a tough situation you are in with the cousin but you have to take care of yourself now, and the easiest and right way to do it (and I say that lightly because there is nothing easy about any...

Sounds like progress Sandstorm, but it also sounds like you're running on frustration which is making you stronger now. Be careful for the wiplash/withdrawl that could come after when those feeling...

Sorry Tal for the confusion on my part. I think Sdjosh is doing well too. I was just saying that I know school/graduation play a big factor in break ups because it is a pivitol point in someone's...

Unfortunetly, those are 2 very common scenarios as well.

Glad to hear Sdjosh, Sounds like you're a pretty lucky guy and on the right track. Wouldn't say you're out of the woods yet though, because it still sounds like there are still eggshells on the...

That being said you can't let the hope rule your life to only bring you false hope and dissapointment or stagnation. And in a break, space is important.. NC space. All I'm saying is that it's not...

I'm confused at that to. I think u have to realize when you're being played and when she has interest. The other thing is the contraditory advice I see. People say no contact and they will come...

It's been 5 months since my ex cut the cord and 7 weeks of no contact (after a 4 year relationship). Things have gotten better for me since, but only in the sense that it's easier to go on with my...

Yeah, I think Tal is right. And I think after 3 weeks, she got used to the attention of you contacting her and she's looking for it again. I don't know what the right thing to do here is, but if I...

I think this is the perfect set of circumstances to make your exit. Leave it on a high note. Walk away and do absolutely NO CONTACT. It doesn't get a better time than this. You know it's not your...

Mckenzie, you are right and you shouldn't hide. But at the same time make sure you're strong enough to see her so you don't fall back down. And you need to keep self control so you don't do or say...

Oh yeah. Things are much more complicated today than they should be. Mckenzie had a good idea, but then what about email and msn, etc. You need some kind of self control.

That's a tough call. I don't understand the not calling either (the same thing happened to me). I think rather than being your friend she's just being friendly and confusing the two.

With the...

Hey Sandstorm,

Just wondering if anything has changed for you or gotten better since you last posted here? Any contact?

Tiodaat,

I feel your pain buddy. It's been about 7 weeks of NC for me too since the last time I emailed her and now I'm dying inside. Almost 5 months since we broke up. After having a little...

Just tell him your past and see what happens. If he can't live with it than move on, but if you don't tell him it's just going to drag on and get worse (ie. Resentment and bitterness). Relevant or...

Yes life pressures can make someone leave. It's a selfish act though, but I've seen it happen. Sounds like you both need have enough to deal with on your own. First, take care of yourself, and...

Yeah that's pretty harsh. But I've noticed that's the case with many break ups. There is always a harshness there. Maybe it's a repressed bitterness, I'm not sure, but either way it sounds like he...

Be careful, don't get your hopes up, take it slow and don't make yourself too available. The same thing happened to me. My ex IM'd me a few times and we talked all day from work a few times, I felt...

Ruby07, stay strong. Every time you make contact u lessen your chances of ever winning them back, and u only torture yourself more. I'm in the same boat right now, so I know how hard it is too.

Take a break and see what happens. Sounds like you need space and some time apart to reconcile your feelings.

Sounds like he's a bit insecure. Probably doesn't mean bad though, just doesn't know to deal with it. Immature in a way. I don't know, maybe try again, but when you do get back with him, don't make...

Back off Still Learning. Don't go down the road 90% of us on this site did and are now miserable for it. Don't tell her you love her and don;'t bring up the relationship. She called you and that's...