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Hi guys I have posted several times in my quest to find the true me and get past the sadness and moodyness that has basically overwhelmed my life I realized something. I look for a mothers love from...

I would ignore it also. No need to feed she is obviously having trouble expressing herself or something. Either way it is no longer your problem. :)

Don't do it. You will be better either way in the long run for it.

How long were you 2 together? I guess is the first question. Second one is what happened?

RUN!! :) Yea she did you favor don't give it back to her by talking/hanging out with her. She has issues and she needs to grow up. Good Luck!

This guy could be very very very shy I can relate. I would say something to him and see how he reacts. Could be he is just very cautious and doesn't want to get hurt.

I agree changing your info if its needed shouldn't be that big a deal.. The question is do you keep those numbers with the slight hope that she might contact you. That's the IMPORTANT question and...

I wouldn't worry about the crutch thing. I myself have gone through several crutches my last breakup was a real eye opener to the fact that I used to make my girlfriends my therapist
Which caused...

I would go NC and give yourself some time to settle down emotionally. Sounds to me like she is tired of the back and forth and wants a long break. You could use it too. Good Luck :)

Yes I have been apart from my ex for over a year... I allowed us to be physical again several months ago and again I was hurt... I am not just hitting a month again of NC and trust me it does get...

Well as a man I can say I struggled with some of these same issues. I think the first one is make a life outside of the relationship. Go out with friends etc.. Make it a point to this on a regular...

You are 100 percent right. I honestly didn't even think of it till I had already started maintaining contact with her on a regular basis. Honestly I don't call her haven't since we broke up. Its...

Great Post! I myself have been back and fourth and have grown tremendously in the past year. I have had some setbacks. Mainly allowing me and my ex to become physical again which caused the wound to...

UPDATE:

Guys I was doing really well but hit a rough patch.. Therapy ended well and I am on my way to living a better and healthier life. Learned allot of ways to relieve stress including walking...

I agree with you 100 percent. Thanks for the reply.

I am doing 100 percent better however the recent turmoil through me into a loop and I basically don't understand allot of the things that...

Ok long story guys but I have recvd positive feedback from this site during a breakup and wanted to revist and see if someone out there can help me through this storm.


I have been going through...

Don't sweat it you are going through exactly what is expected. Feels like somebody pulled the rug from under you and you are falling and can't stop. I understand it gets better and you will decide...

I can relate to what your saying seems like they want you to do sooo many things but the basic things they can't accomplish. My ex started emailing me again after 4 months of NC out of nowhere. First...

I agree I also want my ex back but there is a catch that u will learn later what is the expense? If it means the same situation I walked away from them no I don't want her back if it means she has...

This a tough 1 the signs point to her lying over and over again. Especially this being an Ex makes it that much harder to believe her for me. She goes over there at 2am and leaves at 5am? Sounds like...

Sounds like you are a little insecure but what I found is I also can be insecure and lack confidence but if they are doing things that make u unconfortable beyond that it just feeds the flames. It is...

Your situation sounds similar to mines which is a relief I haven't seen too many my ex contacted me after 4 months and I broke NC as I had already decided before hand that if she did try to contact...

I have def kept the response and everything short and sweet. When we went NC it was mutual but only because I don't want to be with anybody that doesn't want me or feels I have needs they can't meet...

I agree with you she is reaching out sounds like she wants you to understand what is going on. I don't think this is the same as some more negative situations. You still need to focus on you and if...

If he has a girlfriend and is texting you then he is wasting you time. I can relate to him coming to you for info cause you are his most recent ex however that soon and to go right to you seems like...

If you are Ok emotionally I am in the same boat as u. I went 4 months NC then my ex messaged me the day after christmas. Now she has been messaging me every day at work. Maybe she misses you and...

Sounds like you are in a bad situation and you need to get as far away as possible. You have no kids with this guy and he doesn't treat you well. Move On and you will be glad you did. Good Luck!

Sorry to hear I truly feel your pain. I think closure in this situation is needed and if you are up for it I would meet with her to let her air out the truth if that's what she is going to do....

I don't know if I want to call it a relapse but my ex broke NC I'm sure a couple of you guys have seen the post across these boards. We have emailed each other over the past week or so. Actually she...

I agree with you which is why I have been keeping everything short and sweet. To deny my interest I would think would be lying to myself. I have no interest in getting back into the same situation...

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Nice post. I think confidence has been my issue. Funny thing is I get them with confidence because I don't call them all the time etc.. But once I get emotionally involved I tend to...

I think the reason allot of nice guys finish last is because we tend to allow women to walk all over us when we become emotionally attached. I know I do it. The only nice guys that truly finish last...

Sounds like she is playing games. I don't know if she cares but the question is do u care? You do. She is doing you a favor. I wonder if this guy and her have some type of history. Maybe they were...

I hear you and wish the best for u. That being said I don't know what advice I can give other then Duck? Based on what you have said it seems she has chosen to be disconnected now by throwing things...

NC = No Contact

Agree with you about the worry part I don't worry about it but at the same time I feel there is no need to create a headache this is why I chose to leave the other girl alone.
Also I don't know what...

I think you really need to focus on you for a while. If you reward his behavior by giving him another chance expect it to get worst. Doesn't sound like you guys are going down the right path and it...

I feel for you w2d but you have to understand as long as you push the issue she will walk further and further away. I would ignore most of what she is saying because she is confused and she will...

Thanks guys I definitley feel what you guys are saying is a possibility I haven't really been conversating deeply with her or anything. She just basically asked a couple questions I answered with a...

Just a little update guys. #1 I cut off the chick that works at my ex GF's Job. Second the day after christmas I got an email. It was my ex saying Hi. Well I contemplated not responding but figured...

Yea everybody is different I myself needed NC and I have been through multiple breakups this is the first time I have actually been able to maintain NC. Also me and my ex were together for 2 years so...

I read this post and was all intense till you said "She gives Good Head" LOL! I almost fell out my seat. First question is You're a virgin how do u know? I am joking obviously Looks like you have...

I am trying but she keeps MESSAGIN ME! Lol. I don't think there was another guy but I wouldn't doubt it. Only because I assume the worst in these situations mostly because of past experience. She...

We dated for 2 years. She just shot me an email out of nowhere. This was yesterday I contemplated not responding but didn't want to get caught up in games. Decided to respond it was a simple hello....

Sorry to hear about your loss. I have been apart from my Ex for 4 months of NC which was actually just broken but you can see it took 4 months for her to feel she had enough space I guess. Anyway You...

If your GF asked you for space and you are expecting a call don't. You should enjoy yourself the best you can go out or with family. Relax and see what happens. Don't push it you will make it worst.

Its amazing to me you are even considering if you made a mistake. RUN! Seriously you deserve better. Good Luck!

Well Guys I have been doing great until today. Don't want to beat myself up about it but my ex emailed me after 4 MONTHS! This is how it went down lol. First email was a Hi in the title with no body...

You are doing the right thing. NC will either bring her back or help you move on it is a win win situation. Stick to it and work on u.

Good Luck!

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Thanks for asking. It has been good I have been able to focus on myself and my daughter and my home more. We have had complete NC I don't know what you mean by pure vanilla but we don't speak at all...