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    If I should name one - and only one - thing that...

    If I should name one - and only one - thing that attracts people, I would say confidence. No matter what you did before, you still have time to "fix" it - and the best way to do so is not trying to...
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    Harassing ex-boyfriend: Life after Psycho

    Hi everyone. This is going to be a long post so my apologies in advance.

    I dated a really nice guy, who turned out to be a psychopath, really.

    We were friends for a few months before we started...
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    He always says he is "extremely busy" and...

    He always says he is "extremely busy" and "doesn't have enough time to all the work by himself" so in addition to my work, I "help him out". I tried to send my work by email to higher-ups a few...
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    It's company policy. I'm a specialist and he's my...

    It's company policy. I'm a specialist and he's my manager. We have 8 partners who only meet managers. Every time he gives me work to do, he asks me to send it to him so he can "make revisions before...
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    My boss is taking credit for my work

    I feel like a victim and even though I read many articles on the internet, I can't find a way out. I work in a very competitive environment: approximately 200 employees, 9 levels and my department...
  6. Question: Was it too late?

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    A controlling relationship can be hard for both...

    A controlling relationship can be hard for both people so it's only human that you wanted out because you wanted your life back (it is the healthy attitude) and you wanted to give it another shot...
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    Trust me, a lot of women experience the same...

    Trust me, a lot of women experience the same thing sooner or later in life and some of them don't even realize so they keep locking themselves in unhealthy relationships.

    You know what they say,...
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    Your story is heartbreaking, like one of those...

    Your story is heartbreaking, like one of those movies that make you feel uncomfortable... I think you are losing your mind because of the "emasculating" part. And after the loss of your mother who...
  9. Question: Should I respond?

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    I know it won't mean much to you because you will...

    I know it won't mean much to you because you will answer if you want to, but I'd say DON'T. Don't do it, not only because he broke your heart after 5 years, moved in with someone and only contacted...
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    The way a girl lives a Long Distance Relationship...

    The way a girl lives a Long Distance Relationship is different than a man. Your heart is torn apart and the entire world steps on it, which makes you second guess your choices - you just want the...
  11. ERROR: You must spread some Reputation around...

    ERROR: You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to talaniman again.

    Nicely put, tal. I agree 100% - if you aren't going to change your mind, it means you will share the rest of your...
  12. Question: Betrayed.

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    Well, tal, as usual... Your advice worked just...

    Well, tal, as usual... Your advice worked just fine for me. I called her this morning and in a calm way I told her that "I knew she was a blabbermouth" (yes, I did use the word) she said "I know" - I...
  13. Question: Betrayed.

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    Betrayed.

    I had many friends over the years, but not a lot of close ones. After my "BFF" stopped talking to me over a year ago, I found myself a little lost, between my few friends, who just weren't "best...
  14. You are engaged and she hated kissing you? Boy,...

    You are engaged and she hated kissing you? Boy, you're in trouble.
    Ask her what she didn't like about it.
  15. Question: Trying to Move On

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    The best part about a breakup is that you have...

    The best part about a breakup is that you have PLENTY of time for yourself. I remember the romantic comedy marathon followed by breakup movie marathon. Must love dogs is a classic, so is Under the...
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    Wow, Chuck, it really is the first time I read...

    Wow, Chuck, it really is the first time I read such a thing from you.

    Anna, your story is heartbreaking, but I will be the bad gal here and say "forget and move on." I don't think any of it was...
  17. Question: Lost

    by pandead
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    Hi again Necker, three months already? It's...

    Hi again Necker, three months already?

    It's not really depressing, actually, you ARE doing things, no matter what they are. You know you needed time (and probably more than three months!) You...
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    I don't think you can "sue someone for support"...

    I don't think you can "sue someone for support" if you're only dating (not in Europe either.)

    Perhaps you should be more concerned about the reason why you ask the question in the first place?
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    ERROR: You must spread some Reputation around...

    ERROR: You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to vanheart again.

    1 - Stop cheating.
    2 - Give yourself a break from guys. Realize you don't constantly need a man.
    3 - Learn to...
  20. I agree. You know the consequences if you go back...

    I agree. You know the consequences if you go back now; insecurities and suspicions will eat you alive. Don't let him take you for granted. Take your time to consider and observe, his actions have to...
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    What really surprised me when I read your post...

    What really surprised me when I read your post was your ability to gather your ideas and make clear statements about the facts. You can read thousands of posts here, after a devastating breakup, we...
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    Ok, first of all, don't feel bad about leaving...

    Ok, first of all, don't feel bad about leaving someone who makes no effort to get a job to help you and is not aware of what life actually is. You sound more like you are worrying about your kid than...
  23. Wait for the "we have been dating for so long I...

    Wait for the "we have been dating for so long I can't get myself to leave him" and "if I wasn't with my boyfriend I would be with you", too. Because it's what people say when they don't want to make...
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    Oh boy, so familiar. I was in the same situation...

    Oh boy, so familiar.
    I was in the same situation as you and understand completely what you are going through. I moved 4000 miles away for a guy I wanted to marry and lived in the same kind of...
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    It's funny, I remember writing "I can't imagine...

    It's funny, I remember writing "I can't imagine my life without him, I can't eat, I can't sleep, I want him back" about someone when I first came here. Now I can say "thank God he is out of my life."...
  26. I'm not going to tell you how unhealthy it is to...

    I'm not going to tell you how unhealthy it is to "fall for someone" over the internet, because I know that it is just human not to want to be alone. Her boyfriend treats her badly, she needs someone...
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    You know, deep down, that what she did was wrong...

    You know, deep down, that what she did was wrong and disrespectful. It caught my attention that when you first described her, you used the word "pure" as one of her qualities.

    If she was so...
  28. It IS a disturbing question. The whole post is...

    It IS a disturbing question. The whole post is disturbing.
    The mother obviously hid the truth and it was even before you started dating. Do you even realize there is a PERSON involved? What are you...
  29. That's it, right there, you have something :...

    That's it, right there, you have something : self-esteem issues.

    But it doesn't mean you won't ever change, nor that you deserve to be treated this way, by cheating and rebounds, I meant that...
  30. I agree with Doula 100%. Why do you want to be...

    I agree with Doula 100%. Why do you want to be with someone who cheated on you, let you down, dumped you and is mean to you whenever she wants? She has more rebounds, ex-boyfriends and friends with...
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    You need to work on your own issues first, then...

    You need to work on your own issues first, then on your relationship with him. You have to accept a break-up if it came to that point, but you absolutely need to communicate and show him you are...
  32. I agree with Joe on that one. As women, we are...

    I agree with Joe on that one. As women, we are more into feelings and the spiritual/intimacy side of sex when men are mostly into the visual part.

    No matter what they say, people do watch porn and...
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    What is wrong with me?

    Last year, I thought I found the right person; he was patient, caring, compassionate, nice and funny. He was strong and incredibly smart, we've been through a lot together - until I decided to break...
  34. You are at an age where what you look for in a...

    You are at an age where what you look for in a girl is limited to Harry Potter, Animal Crossing or Harvest Moon and "cuteness." So it was only normal that you fell for her, or so you thought.

    You...
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    They have been together for many years, perhaps...

    They have been together for many years, perhaps she is getting bored and she misses the feeling of being in a new relationship. Maybe after 7 years, he doesn't make breakfast for her (or maybe he...
  36. NC is supposed to tell you... WTH are you doing?...

    NC is supposed to tell you... WTH are you doing? :)
    On your Facebook posts?? What is SHE doing in your Facebook? I understand being polite is what you both are trying to do but seriously, what do...
  37. I agree 100% with vanheart here. I know it will...

    I agree 100% with vanheart here.
    I know it will sound meaningless to you, but I will say it anyway :
    She was NOT perfect for you, but you don't see it yet. Start by thinking that if she really was,...
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    It is perfectly normal to be stressed before your...

    It is perfectly normal to be stressed before your wedding day. It happens to everyone and you should remind yourself why you wanted to get married in the first place - if your answer still seems...
  39. I honestly think it's her way to cope with your...

    I honestly think it's her way to cope with your past (unfortunately, I used to do that too) because she is trying hard to accept it and prove you she is open minded enough to talk/joke about it. I...
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    He washes your car, calls you twice a day, he...

    He washes your car, calls you twice a day, he says he misses you, but doesn't show it in the "affectionate way."

    We all have different ways to show our feelings for someone, especially men are...
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    I agree with Tal, although I understand the fact...

    I agree with Tal, although I understand the fact that we all need someone, at some point in our lives, to tell us that we are beautiful, attractive, smart or just funny, someone to listen to our...
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    Dude, There is no "reading between the lines."...

    Dude,
    There is no "reading between the lines." She is dating someone and she might be considering breaking it off if you want to get back together - and she can break up with you if she meets...
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    There are many ways to make a long distance...

    There are many ways to make a long distance relationship last longer. You an talk on the internet and watch a movie "together", send care packages to each other with books, crafted objects etc. you...
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    I don't know if I understood everything in this...

    I don't know if I understood everything in this story...

    You have an argument with your ex-boyfriend who is dating another girl, you get mad over the old things that happened between you two,...
  45. Well, just a little update. After a hesitation...

    Well, just a little update.
    After a hesitation period, I ended it. I told him I deserve better than the way he treats me. He begged, promised he would change, he said he loved me and that one day he...
  46. Well, he always lived with his family, I left my...

    Well, he always lived with his family, I left my house very early and my twenties were crazy. Not the "sex drugs rock'n roll" crazy, but I have to say I had a lot of fun and I'm glad I did. He just...
  47. He can't handle my past. What am I supposed to do?

    I will try to make this short.

    I always had painful relationships, the last 2 were long distance and I never looked around. Then I met him. Long story short, he swept me off my feet. We spent...
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    I think it's a good way to look for help and want...

    I think it's a good way to look for help and want to fix things - rather than "dumping the broken boyfriend" actually.

    I hear a lot of stories about people being in a completely different mental...
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    About time! PS. You don't have to run...

    About time!

    PS. You don't have to run FL/Garage Band and Protools at once and when you're not recording, Audacity is useless. I'd say Ableton is all you need in a daw + a few more editing options...
  50. Question: Lost

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    Did they change the way AIM works? You used to be...

    Did they change the way AIM works? You used to be online (and visible) to see who was online. So unless it changed, she can still see you online as well. Plus, it doesn't even matter. The question...
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